Re: Possible EA or just me being paranoid about a platonic friendship?
Oh boy, 3 years? Well, we know the hysterical bonding is in full swing right now.
This is always interesting to me when it appears. The Betrayed at some point always subtly agrees with the wayward. So, she checked out and you did damage control. Explain to me how that is "we didn't work on the marriage." No, you are utterly wrong. Even damage control is working on the marriage. I am not saying you are perfect, but you can't repair a MARRIAGE if only one person is trying. Yes, even if the help is only damage control and repairing what is wrong. She let you run around, in the dark, trying to fix something with no input from her. No, there is no we in this scenario, it is just "me" in this instance.
Blaming yourself is only going to let her do the same thing again. No, right now, she is in fight or flight mode. You have no power at all.