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Well this took a weird turn. Proceeding with caution. Stand by.
Oh boy......what she want? An open marriage?

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She wants to try and commit back to the marriage. Reconciliation. Yes, PA came to light.

She offered NC with OM, access to her phone, emails...full transparency. Obviously, I'm on high alert. A full 180 out of the blue? Something is afoot.
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She wants to try and commit back to the marriage. Reconciliation. Yes, PA came to light.

She offered NC with OM, access to her phone, emails...full transparency. Obviously, I'm on high alert. A full 180 out of the blue? Something is afoot.
Hmm...

This guy married?

Is he co-worker?

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Hmm...

This guy married?

Is he co-worker?

Not married. Leaving town in a couple weeks. Was a coworker. Got fired a month ago. Look, I'm not taking this at all at face value. Something is up. I'm trying to figure out what.
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Re: Possible EA or just me being paranoid about a platonic friendship?

Just went back to your initial post in this thread and I see that yes, he's a co-worker.

So basically he knows that you know what's up and they're colluding on how to mitigate the fallout.

Smart money says that she's looking to buy time for a clean exit.

Oh, and there's this...

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Whenever we would talk about the state of our marriage she would, however, always regress to the memory of how much she put the marriage before herself throughout that time. She felt she lost herself and sees herself as weak in those years and that she never wants to become that person again. So a thought of us being together romantically in the future has never entered her mind. She fully believes that it will never happen and that eventually we will go our separate ways as soon as our youngest is off to college.
ETA: Just read your last post. What's the word on why he was fired?

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She's in panic mode to regain her Plan B so she won't be high and dry.

Better get STD tests. Unless she cut you off for her boyfriend.
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She wants to try and commit back to the marriage. Reconciliation. Yes, PA came to light.

She offered NC with OM, access to her phone, emails...full transparency. Obviously, I'm on high alert. A full 180 out of the blue? Something is afoot.
Did you discover? Or she confess? Hmmmmm maybe it blew up and she was Covering before you got word.

Nice job in sniffing out this doesn't add up.
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ETA: Just read your last post. What's the word on why he was fired?
Just restructuring. He pretty much lives in a van...down by the river.
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Re: Possible EA or just me being paranoid about a platonic friendship?

As you've found cheaters lie a lot. For gods sake don't jump back into this without taking some time to think. See the attorney and see what your rights are. Just because you now know doesn't mean a thing.
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Just restructuring. He pretty much lives in a van...down by the river.
It's a good thing you didn't have a VAR in there -- you'd be scarred.


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Just restructuring. He pretty much lives in a van...down by the river.
Once the divorce is done, hand her a really nice set of floor mats and seat covers and say, "Here -- I got you a house-warming gift."




Sorry man... I know you're hurting.

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Just restructuring. He pretty much lives in a van...down by the river.
Squid,

You should divorce her just for the stupidity of this. Lord!
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Once the divorce is done, hand her a really nice set of floor mats and seat covers and say, "Here -- I got you a house-warming gift."




Sorry man... I know you're hurting.
I dunno those are pretty expensive. Those Chritsmas tree auto deodorizers are inexpensive and they smell good. Come in different fragrances. You could get them an economy pack.
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I dunno those are pretty expensive. Those Chritsmas tree auto deodorizers are inexpensive and they smell good. Come in different fragrances. You could get them an economy pack.
Hmm... I wonder if anyone sells a latex-scented deodorizer.

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Did she admit the PA or did you find out on your own?
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