Join Date: Jan 2016
Location: Southern USA, but longtime NYC boy prior to our move.
Re: Those that stayed, what would you have done in hind sight?
I assume you mean staying in a bad relationship. It always amuses me when people post assuming we know what they are thinking. In another forum I see a lot of sex and romance questions where people do not give their age or gender. I never know if it is a 13 year old virgin girl or a 17 year old guy, asking so I avoid answering.
Assuming you mean a relationships, I left my ex fiancee immediately upon finding out she cheated. I know that people seldom change and their past behavior is a very good indicator of their future behavior. Plus all the people I knew who cheated, kept on cheating even though they promised that they would not. My gut feeling saved the day for me.
My ex fiancee went on to cheat on the guy she cheated on me with. Then she had mental problems, joined a commune where she was passed from person to person stoned out of her mind and drugged on LSD. She got out of there only because the commune broke up. She started seeing angels and talking to them. One told her to do things and she did them. She thought she could see your future through her angels. She had a kid from no one knows who and found a guy who needed a green card to marry. She cheated on him too and finally married a woman who is much older than she is. She called me 47 year later to apologize and told me how lousy her life had been up to the point she married her wife. She went on to tell me how different things might have been had she not been so immature and cheated on me. I told her that sometimes just one thing we do wrong, can dictate the rest of your life. For her it was cheating. For me it was her cheating because had I married her as planned, I would never have met my wonderful wife who I proposed to 3 weeks after we met and are still married 44+ years later.
The second girlfriend who cheated on me and that I dumped, went on to a fantastic life of being a crack addicted prostitute. When she cleaned up after serving jail time, she became a stripper and married one of her steady lap dance customers who had some money, but was 11 years older than her. She emailed me once and told me that she was visiting her crack addicted daughter to try to get her to quit drugs. Another decision not to believe a cheating woman saved the day for me.
Many prefer to drown in a pool of their own morality rather than seek the safety of a different morality when the choice is monogamy or your marriage.
Last edited by Vinnydee; 02-14-2017 at 10:36 PM.