Be a man, grow up and tell your wife. Cut off all contact with the ow, look for another job and start to be a responsible husband and father. Stop travelling alone in the car together now. Tell her its over.
Yes your wife will be deeply hurt. Yes she may divorce you. Yes you will cause terrible disruption in your children's lives. That's what happens when you lie, cheat and put your own selfish desires first. There are bad consequences. Why anyone would be interested in a women who has no moral values, no integrity and and thinks nothing of having sex with another womans husband I will never know. She will almost certainly cheat on you as well, you do realise that. That's if she isn't now.
I doubt you will do what I have said above, I hope you do though. No marriage should have such deep secrets.
BTW you must get tested for STD's, and if you have had sex with your wife since, she must as well. Please don't have sex with your wife until you know you are clear. A woman who has sex with others womens husbands may well have an STD.They are so common now.
Last edited by Diana7; 02-17-2017 at 12:14 PM.