Re: Sympathy for The Devil- Wayward Spouses and Compassion
Originally Posted by EllaSuaveterre View Post
I'm afraid that he will tell me that my feelings aren't important. Or that he'll say I don't deserve to talk about them in some way or another. I'm afraid that he might imply either or both of those things through body language. I'm afraid he'll be angry that I can't control my own thoughts. That he'll tell me to stop talking and go away, that I'm bothering him. I don't think he'd leave me, but he might be repulsed by me for a while, worst-case scenario.
You are very sensitive, Ella. It is part of your sweetness. Your husband surely loves that about you.
And as much as he appreciates your sweetness, he also needs your honesty. He needs it as much for his own growth as for that of the marriage.
It would be a very good idea to tell him what you have written above. You could go to him and very vulnerably share those fears. I think that would be very honest and open, and very healthy.
One of the deepest feminine pleasures is when a man stands full, present, and unreactive in the midst of his woman's emotional storms. When he stays present with her, and loves her through the layers of wildness and closure, then she feels his trustability, and she can relax. -- David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man