Continuing on from the other 14-page thread which was entitled, "What advice would you give to a wayward/betrayed spouse and why?", this thread is just the same, only with a more fitting title.
If you haven't read the thread, it was basically my argument that even wayward spouses, being that they are human beings, have a fundamental right to self-care and self-compassion, and that such would actually enable them to be better healers to their betrayed spouses when they needed to be. The counterargument was that any talk of the wayward spouse feeling anything but self-hatred was a knife in the back of the betrayed.
I am beginning to understand that, yes, the wayward spouse's pain might further trigger a betrayed spouse, but on an emotional level, I have yet to discover precisely why.
If I may paste the last thing I wrote on the other thread:
If you haven't read the thread, it was basically my argument that even wayward spouses, being that they are human beings, have a fundamental right to self-care and self-compassion, and that such would actually enable them to be better healers to their betrayed spouses when they needed to be. The counterargument was that any talk of the wayward spouse feeling anything but self-hatred was a knife in the back of the betrayed.
I am beginning to understand that, yes, the wayward spouse's pain might further trigger a betrayed spouse, but on an emotional level, I have yet to discover precisely why.
If I may paste the last thing I wrote on the other thread:
Let us continue.