Hi All,
My husband started an affair five years ago I found out four years ago and he left our eleven year relationship, which for best part was good, very good. We had been married four years at his time of leaving. After we discovered he wasn't able to have children things went pear shaped. He started the affair with a girl 15 years his junior, he is 48. He left and moved in with her, I was heartbroken beyond belief, I had to sell my house and he was gone. He never gave me any hope and he never spoke to me about any of it ever, all he did was cry because he felt so guilty. It was devastating!
We are still not divorced and he'd never asked me for one. I got on with my life eventually, I've dated quite a few guys, nothing has ever come of it. So, it was my birthday at the weekend, Saturday. I was just getting into bed late on Friday and two minutes past midnight I receive a text from him wising me a happy birthday. I thanked him and expected to hear no more as he never interacted with me apart from each year wishing me a good birthday.
So we have been having these very brief messages going back and forth and I was silly yesterday, although it was done in a jokey way, I said to him that It was crazy, but I did miss him still. He came back and said he did me too. I was shocked!! I then said to him that some people in life were irreplaceable and he said he totally agrees with that! Again, I am shocked.
I kinda felt something wasn't right, so I text his sister whom I've not spoken with for a good while. It has come to light that the girl friend dumped him way before Christmas and he was heartbroken. Well, they say karma is a wonderful thing and what goes around comes around and by god it has!
Now my head is spinning is he making a play for me? I'm confused and I just wanted to hear peoples thoughts. I do still love him, I will admit that, but I suffered incredible pain. I am over that and a much stronger person and better person. I'm not a fool, but I'm worried and can't stop thinking about this. All opinions welcome, they would be appreciated on how I should be handling this situation?
My husband started an affair five years ago I found out four years ago and he left our eleven year relationship, which for best part was good, very good. We had been married four years at his time of leaving. After we discovered he wasn't able to have children things went pear shaped. He started the affair with a girl 15 years his junior, he is 48. He left and moved in with her, I was heartbroken beyond belief, I had to sell my house and he was gone. He never gave me any hope and he never spoke to me about any of it ever, all he did was cry because he felt so guilty. It was devastating!
We are still not divorced and he'd never asked me for one. I got on with my life eventually, I've dated quite a few guys, nothing has ever come of it. So, it was my birthday at the weekend, Saturday. I was just getting into bed late on Friday and two minutes past midnight I receive a text from him wising me a happy birthday. I thanked him and expected to hear no more as he never interacted with me apart from each year wishing me a good birthday.
So we have been having these very brief messages going back and forth and I was silly yesterday, although it was done in a jokey way, I said to him that It was crazy, but I did miss him still. He came back and said he did me too. I was shocked!! I then said to him that some people in life were irreplaceable and he said he totally agrees with that! Again, I am shocked.
I kinda felt something wasn't right, so I text his sister whom I've not spoken with for a good while. It has come to light that the girl friend dumped him way before Christmas and he was heartbroken. Well, they say karma is a wonderful thing and what goes around comes around and by god it has!
Now my head is spinning is he making a play for me? I'm confused and I just wanted to hear peoples thoughts. I do still love him, I will admit that, but I suffered incredible pain. I am over that and a much stronger person and better person. I'm not a fool, but I'm worried and can't stop thinking about this. All opinions welcome, they would be appreciated on how I should be handling this situation?