Re: New to EA
The latest...we went to counseling. That morning before counseling I had a phone call from the OW where she admitted to oral, manual, and phone sex while he was on a work trip. Ok...so I had proof. I went first with my story. I did not mention yet what I had learned. Then, he told his story. Again, not admitting sex. So, I confronted him in front of the counselor. He said it wasn't intercourse so he doesn't consider it sex. Seriously, Bill Clinton?? Anyway, when he knew he could not win the argument, he said he had something dark inside of him and he could not quit. But, he had. He had not had an affair for 32 years. He kept talking about how he had been on Yahoo Messenger and in forums in the 1990's when he had to quit that. The counselor asked him a few questions and now he says he has deep issues...sex addiction.
So, now the focus is on his problem. Too freaking bad that I had to get hurt but he couldn't help it. This is so much like IEP for behavior students. They couldn't help it that they punched you or cursed you. It is an issue that can't help.
This just seems awfully damn convenient that he has "issues". Can he not just let me go? He professes his deep love for me. Well, if this is love, I don't want a part of it.
So, what do you all think? Can he possibly have sex addiction? If he does, what should I do now?? All opinions welcomed!