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post #16 of 29 (permalink) Old 02-21-2017, 05:23 PM
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Divorce seems to be the only viable option here!

Regardless, IC(Individual Counseling)is the order of the day for the both of you, both during and after the divorce process fully plays itself out!

Accept it and embrace it! It will make far better people out of the both of you!



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post #17 of 29 (permalink) Old 02-21-2017, 05:43 PM
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@bluelikeliz - I commend your courage and honesty. I found personal therapy extremely beneficial. It helped me view my marriage and myself more clearly. It helped me to make sound decisions. Despite him not willing to attend marriage counseling you still probably need to work on you. Good luck!

@blueinbr - omg! After your scolding of me yesterday? Well, I never! 😏

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Recovering from infidelity usually takes three to five years. And there are marriages that don't survive no matter how hard the spouse who cheated tries to right the wrong. Time will tell.

Certainly you should continue to try to get through to him about what you need but since there was a problem with sex before you cheated he may not choose to change. Only he knows how important your marriage is to him and how much effort, if any, he's willing to put forth to save it.
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Recovering from infidelity usually takes three to five years. And there are marriages that don't survive no matter how hard the spouse who cheated tries to right the wrong. Time will tell.

Certainly you should continue to try to get through to him about what you need but since there was a problem with sex before you cheated he may not choose to change. Only he knows how important your marriage is to him and how much effort, if any, he's willing to put forth to save it.
After reading this, I don't quite understand why it would be so important to reconcile. What is there to gain by reconciling?

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... and shes's outta here.

Looking for a quick fix for a complex problem. IF people didn't quote her posts - people wouldn't even know what this is about.


Supporting those who want to divorce or reconcile. Not every relationship is the same.
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What's up with new people posting and bailing? Third one this week.
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What's up with new people posting and bailing? Third one this week.
Typically it's the same few betrayed posters that come out and attack the OP. It's the reason why membership is way down from prior years.
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If someone is brave enough to ask for advice, they should be given advice that might help them.

Sorry that the OP deleted most of her comments.
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ex-boyfriend contacted me and said he was driving through town. I met up with him, full intending just to talk over a cup of coffee. Anyway, one thing led to another, and we slept together.
LMFAO!

On just so many levels........

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Typically it's the same few betrayed posters that come out and attack the OP. It's the reason why membership is way down from prior years.
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LMFAO!

On just so many levels........
Case in point.


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Case in point.
Must of been some damn good coffee....

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His posts were blank (at least on my computer.) It'd be nice to know why we weren't supposed to crucify him.
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His posts were blank (at least on my computer.) It'd be nice to know why we weren't supposed to crucify him.


You came too late
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What?!?... thinking - @blueinbr that's very judgemental of you.

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