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post #1 of 143 (permalink) Old 02-25-2017, 06:29 PM Thread Starter
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My Bed Started Walking

I fly for an airline and am gone three or four days at a time and home three or four days at a time. I've had suspicions For quite some time that my wife was screwing around, nothing concrete, she's very good at covering her tracks. A few years ago I suspected a sexual affair with an older male coworker. She was deleting tons of text from him, started kissing me differently during sex, when we had it, and just acted different. She has a history of "sexting" men when she was younger that I discovered was going on before we wed 7 years ago. I also discovered just after getting married that she's been hiding a cocaine problem from me. She did go to treatment and was clean for several years, but I also suspect she uses prescription speed now periodically. This started around the time the suspected affair was going on with the male coworker. Her MO revolves around social media. I've noticed when I'm gone she is up late on FB Messenger, but when I'm home she's not on there as much. There just never has been any profound "this is it" discovery where I know for sure. I do need to get this off my chest and see if what I'm thinking regarding the following situation makes any logical sense? About eight months ago, I came home from a three day trip was doing some vacuuming in our bedroom. I noticed that our mahogany sleigh bed had moved six or 7 inches off of the wall. I asked my wife about this yet she denied knowing the cause. In fact, it's sort of became a running joke between us that our house was haunted or something. We have a mostly sexless marriage, and I won't go into the details with all that but only bring it up to say we rarely have sex. As soon as I got serious about marrying her, she started pushing me away. Two nights ago we had a long talk about our relationship-really breaking through some territory that needed to be talked about and we both felt better about things. One thing led to another And we had very passionate, very "enthusiastic" kind of sex. Like we did when we first met ten years ago. We both agreed we haven't had sex like this in many years. Later that evening, it dawned on me to see if this action caused our bed to move. For the last eight months I have been racking my brain trying to figure out what could cause this other than her having sex with someone while I was away. Went to the bedroom and sure enough the bed had moved yet another 6 inches off of the wall. In 8 months time the only activity that has caused the bed to memic what it had done previously was our sex that night. For the life of me or should I say for the life of my marriage, I can't think of another cause to make that bed move like that. Any ideas? Am I thinking about this too much? Is this a smoking gun that one would feel comfortable throwing the towel in on? I know everyone on here sees lots of these post, and I just want to say thank you in advance for any light one could shed on a very difficult time in my life.


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If it looks like a duck.
Quacks like a duck.
Walks like a duck.
It's probably a duck.
Wise up.
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Purchase:
Voice Activated Recorder
Maybe Hidden Camera (some come in clock designs)

Time for you to turn to jetpilot007, if you get my meaning.

Check cellphone if you can for texts. Or check phone bill to see who is being called. Place keyloggers on the computer if that's where she accesses Facebook from. Full spy mode!

Even if I don't get likes for it, I'm still going to say it.
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Maybe you should go into the details why your marriage is sexless. It's relevant.
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A VAR would tell you what you need to know.

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Sounds like my RSXW has being paying your house a visit!

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Don't confront until you have evidence though, otherwise she'll take it underground.
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Went to the bedroom and sure enough the bed had moved yet another 6 inches off of the wall. In 8 months time the only activity that has caused the bed to mimic what it had done previously was our sex that night.
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God, I love your title !!!!

Of all the hotels that I have stayed in, and all the bed creaking and banging noises that my sensitive ears have picked up "there", this has to be the cause! Good eye, good deduction!

Someone might have moved it to flip a mattress or dust under the bed, or paint the bedroom. But, she helped not, your prurient imagination.

I think you spoke too soon. The bed thumping will be shifted to another soft horizontal plane. She now knows...you are curious George. She will be cagey, from henceforth, in time.

You need to place a camera outside both doors of your house. The kind of animal/hunting "trail' cameras that Cabella's sells. They are motion sensitive and take a series of pictures.

You need to find out what "Ghost of Christmas past" visits your wife in your absence.

I suspect the sex that she denies you is being offered to a short tailed, hairless POSOM from a dark woods. He has entered her furry burrow and taken her by night and by storm. She invited him in.

This often is the price and the meager ration of Celibacy. Such that, if a man or a women be denied intimacy by their betrothed, they will eventually seek it elsewhere.

Lack of intimacy... is a vacuum. A vacuum seeking warm flesh and respite from ambient and willing, peripheral bounders and carpet baggers.
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This is speculation. You need to prove your case. Check all her communication devices, her phone records. Put a VAR in her car. Check for messaging apps on her computer. Use "Locate Phone App" if she is using an Apple IPHONE. You can see where she is at all times if you set her phone up and install her on ICloud.
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Tell us about the lack of sex in your marriage. Why is this?
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This....This is the nub of the stick that pokes me in the eye when the light of day energizes my optic nerve....SunCMars.... The Allegory of the Cave--> On this, I did a '180' and stepped out.

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If it looks like a duck.
Quacks like a duck.
Walks like a duck.
It's probably a duck.
Wise up.
Yes, but you need to replace the Ducks "D" with and "F".

Sorry, Jetpilot, but, where there is a far-off and lonesome and solitary "Quack" heard in the Wilderness..... there is a crack that needs filled. A Co-Pilot needing a break...and a well placed warm beak.

This....This is the nub of the stick that pokes me in the eye when the light of day energizes my optic nerve....SunCMars.... The Allegory of the Cave--> On this, I did a '180' and stepped out.

The Lion in Winter. Invictus..By Will, Shall... Saved from harm by my friends.
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Jet Pilot,

If you are smart enough to fly a plane full of passengers, you are too smart to not know that a bed does not move on its own. Now add that to you stating that you and wife rarely have sex, and someone with half your IQ would know either your wife does not like sex or she is getting it elsewhere with you travelliung so much.

Now add in the FB peculiarities ,and my guess is your reason for coming here is 100% spot on.

Take the advice. Buy a good VAR and put it in her car, or buy two and put one where your computer is or where she spends most of her time at home and you will get your answers quickly. And get your cell records if you have a family plan.

With her history with co workers, I would start there in looking for OM.

Do not confront her yet.

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^^ What straightshooter said. Put a VAR in the bedroom too next time you're out of town for a night.
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Is it possible that she is a particularly violent masturbator?

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Any kids?

Virginia: "Why can't you kids leave well enough alone? Everything was fine until you started digging around."

Burt: "You sound like a Scooby Doo villain."
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OP, you already know the answer sweetheart.
You have gotten some good suggestions, and they will most likely get you the concrete answers you are looking for. My guess is a PI for one of the partial weeks you are gone would give you what you need.

I would not recommend banging that, since I'm convinced your not the only visitor to that well. Be careful.

@SunCMars...the FIRST thing that popped into my mind when I saw the thread title was you! I kid you not!

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Well!

I have never been more insulted!

Before I go off on a long winded tangent, explain to our audience and OP why you thought this.

Or, just PM me [with your reply].

SCM

P.S. You are more correct than you think.........................only it's 65 years after the fact.

ESP....is real.

This....This is the nub of the stick that pokes me in the eye when the light of day energizes my optic nerve....SunCMars.... The Allegory of the Cave--> On this, I did a '180' and stepped out.

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