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Old 12-30-2011, 07:17 AM   #31 (permalink)
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Get rid of the computer or only let her have password to log on. Get rid of phone if there is an internet connection on it.
That won't solve anything at all. That will only serve to make him beta-ized, and as well, he will then start to resent the "jailer" and that will cause all sorts of issues. It's just like trying to quit any other addiction. If you rely on someone else to watch over you like a hawk, distrustful and vigilant, that gives the addict a perfect excuse to blame the watcher for any backsliding. Also, it makes the p0rn much more illicit and enticing. The more, and harder you fight something like an addiction, or an inner demon, the harder it fights back. Learn to accept, forgive yourself, and then move on.
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Old 12-30-2011, 08:04 AM   #32 (permalink)
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My goodness mr mike---how you throw out the alpha and the beta----DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT?????

You sure don't have much of a grasp on the language being used on this thread

deets has not bothered to talk about their sex life---cuz it doesn't come into play---what is it you don't understand about that

You are here trying to invent all these arguments about this, that and everything else

Why don't you try reading the original post, maybe have a dictionary handy with you so you can understand each word deets uses.

This is not about whether porn is good bad, evil or not---it is about a wife asking her H., NOT to use porn, and him complying

It is about a wife saying to her H, if you do not stop with the porn this mge may be doomed---and whether he can get himself to stop

That is what this is about, and NOTHING ELSE----mr mike---WHAT IS IT YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND ABOUT THAT??????
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Old 12-30-2011, 08:36 AM   #33 (permalink)
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My goodness mr mike---how you throw out the alpha and the beta----DO YOU EVEN KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT?????

You sure don't have much of a grasp on the language being used on this thread

deets has not bothered to talk about their sex life---cuz it doesn't come into play---what is it you don't understand about that

You are here trying to invent all these arguments about this, that and everything else

Why don't you try reading the original post, maybe have a dictionary handy with you so you can understand each word deets uses.

This is not about whether porn is good bad, evil or not---it is about a wife asking her H., NOT to use porn, and him complying

It is about a wife saying to her H, if you do not stop with the porn this mge may be doomed---and whether he can get himself to stop

That is what this is about, and NOTHING ELSE----mr mike---WHAT IS IT YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND ABOUT THAT??????
I seem to understand a bit more than you do. Look up argumentum ad hominem...Ok now that you have looked it up, realize that your attack on me does not invalidate what I wrote, and is a logical fallacy that does nothing to prove your case.
I would strongly suggest you re-read the posts here. The level, or lack of, marital intimacy is a crucial variable here. If, indeed, his wife is willing to engage in connubial bliss, then of course Deets should get some help with his alleged addiction. If Mrs. Deets is somehow using the bliss in question as a weapon to punish or deny, then on top of that asking him to deny his sexuality, is abusive, ridiculous and plain wrong.
In any case, you can be as against the use of p0rnography as much as you want to. I am glad that you have found something you can revile, and as well, people you can judge for having to resort to it. I can take an awful lot of abuse without flinching, having been harassed, harried and abused by true masters of the art for many years, but what really gets to me is willful stupidity, which is why I chose to respond to your screed. Now, was that a good demonstration of language? I have much more language at my disposal, I assure you, but I think it deconstructive until we hear from the OP about the situation with his life-partner...BTW that's Mr. MikeTASTIC to you, now good day sir!
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