Re: Not sure what to do - Positive HPV test
I'll take it further. You either stop and get Marriage counseling or go all in with snooping. Skimming your posts makes me realize there are holes in the dam you have built, over the years, about your wife's behavior. It gets spread out a missed because of all of the STI bickering, but you have basically confirmed what I and others stated earlier. It has been eating at you for years and the double confirmation has made it worse. All of your denials and reasons are really excuses because you are scared of what may have happened. From an affair to a possible sexual assault, you have fear. It's okay and marriage counseling can help, but it isn't going to work if you go in with a leaking dam and trust issue.