Re: Not sure what to do - Positive HPV test
Here is the thing, you seem very codependent. She knows this, this is probably why she was with you in the first place and why she doesn't tell the truth. She knows she can get away with it and there will be no consequences. This has probably been the dynamic from the start. Once again this fits the pattern that we see on here over and over. The fact that you are already telling her if she cheated you will be OK with that just shows there are no serious consequences for her. Why shouldn't she just lie to you, cheating is worse and you are quick to forgive.
I mean how hard is it to say. "Wife no more carefully worded sentences, I want you to tell me to my face you have not had any sexual contact with anyone since we got serious, that means kissing, fondling, any kind of penetrative sex period. Also I want you to tell me you never had an emotional affair with anyone."
If she gets mad, she gets mad, she will get over it or she won't but you won't get over this though. If she gets mad and doesn't say it to you my response would be. "I'm sorry but having a STD which from everything I have read most likely have to had happened within a 2 year period changes things. Unfortunately that is life, and that is where we are. I am surprised you don't understand that this would cause worry in anyone. This is not me being insecure this is me being logical and protecting myself. I have never questioned you about this before. I would expect you do the same and have offered a polygraph to give you the same peace I am looking for. Look I can tell I am not going to get over this unless you can tell me that and right now it looks like you can't. I guess it's time for me to asses if we have a future." Seems to me that is where you are at anyway.
Last edited by sokillme; 03-21-2017 at 10:44 AM.