12-24-2011, 05:45 PM
Join Date: Oct 2011
| | Re: Honesty in R
I have been through all the pain and hurt that many people on here have talked about. I did the 180 when she was moved out of our home and it was really good for me. Before I allowed her to move home she wrote the no contact letter and committed to doing the work needed to making this right and saving our marrige. I am past the 180 and am working on the issues that caused the marriage breakdown as is she. She has taken full responsibility for the affair. This affair occurred in two stages. The first began with what I think was what a think was a textbook walk away wife. I was blindsided, tried to do everything to fix things etc. We Legally seperated at this point and that is when her EA turned physical. It ended with the OM ending it and exposing everything to his wife. This is when I found out. I took my wife back at that time, she told me her passwords etc, and we started marrige counseling. She told me there would be no contact but I've learned now it never really stopped. They both agreed it was for the best that they go back to thier marriages but they stayed in contact for months as friends. Of course it turned into another EA. I found out when the OMW found some emails and called me. I asked her to leave and she did. Now she is back in the home and we are in R. She works in the same company as the OM but in different towns. He has given his notice to quit his job so I have not asked her to quit. She has talked to her boss and he will help her with no contact untill he is done. Yes, I exposed her to everyone.
I would never trust this person again. At no point the reason to get back was because she loves you. She doesn't want to lose her family(kids, support of her side of the family). Is it good enough for you?
Last edited by warlock07; 12-24-2011 at 05:52 PM.