If you give your wife a chance and rebuild your marriage... it can happen and your marriage can be good even after an affair. Recovery is a long, painful process but can be rewarding.
I'm not going to risk the time. Already got 8 years shot. Depending on how long I live, that could be 1 day out of every week down the tubes. Why throw good after bad?
Most states are no fault for divorce now. I doubt the evidence will do you any good.
My attorney says that you can put on a lot of pressure with good evidence, because cheaters don't like to have everything revealed to the entire world. He's done it before. And you know something? Even if she manages to extort some money out of me, we're pretty sure that I can get the kids.
Money is probably the answer. For the last year she had her fun at your expense. Now she is scared that the OM can't support her like you can.
BTW, how did you find out about it? What did she have to say when you confronted? Just curious.
If this is the deal breaker for you, then tell your family that you cannot live with a lying, cheating, low life person that does not respect you and your children. The option you mentioned above works too.
Why are you moving out? Shouldn't she pack her bags and go to the OM? After all that's what she has done for the past year behind your back. He's been getting all the benefits, is it not about time for him to take on the expense as well?
I found out about it because my computer broke down, I needed to send some stuff and I saw that hers was running. She'd been in a big hurry when leaving the house (probably to meet him) and forgotten to turn it off. I switched on the screen and it was basically all there.
When she got home, I got in her face, and she broke down and gave me a bunch of BS about how she had wanted to end it, had only started it because she felt lonely, etc. Lonely my rosy butt. I guess if there's a planet somewhere with more than 7 days in a week on it, then she should move there, because that's what she got from me. She said he doesn't compare to me and I said I didn't marry you because I wanted to be a regular on the Dating Game, even you say that the fix is in and I'll always end up winning after the final round of sampling.
I'm moving out because I know they were doing it here and living in a hot-sheet motel isn't my particular cup of Earl Grey. She says they never did it in our bed and I know she's full of BS, so I don't want to be constantly reminded and be wondering what was all over those sheets I slept in. Kids are coming with me, I've told the older one already that it's splitsville. There are plenty of kids in her school with divorced parents, so she knows what it means.
Man, am I glad that these kids look a LOT like me. There aren't many people who do, so at least I'm sure there.
My mom called me up today and tried to give me a lecture about forgiveness. I told her that if she didn't want some of what her beloved floozy daughter-in-law was getting, she should clam up quick. I can't believe you can be a good son and pride of the family for all of your life, and suddenly they take the tramp's side over yours. My sister (who I have bailed out of jail more than once) is even trying to give me the high-hat.
Thanks again people.