You make the assumtion that this is the women you knew and married. Please protect your self, kids and parents and assume nothing....this is not the same women you once knew....that women has past away.
Friend, it's worse than that. She didn't pass away. She simply never was.
I'll definitely be finding out about him shortly. I'm taking your advice to heart.
The way you word things makes it sound as though you think you are in charge of what happens in the divorce and with custody. You are not. Your wife has as much right to have custody of your childen as you do. If she was the primary care giver she is more likely to get primary custody. You are not the one who will be "giving her custody". The court will work to make sure that your children have as much access to both of you as possible.
I think you have an unrealistic view of what divorce is like and how courts deal with child custody.
I smell some other unspoken agenda here, but what people don't want to say, they won't.
When I say "not in favor of giving her more than I have to," that's what I mean. I may not have anything to say at all. I may indeed HAVE TO give her everything. That's why I say "have to see what the court says." But I have no intention of rolling over. Nor do I intend to represent myself.
The original plan was I leave. She finally left because she wanted to be with her beau. I'm guessing the problem was that she couldn't admit it and that's what was getting her all down-in-the-mouth and mopey. So: I'm currently the single parent. That's the physical what-is, even if the law isn't planning to give me a trip to Disney World for it.
She'll have fun with her beau and then she'll be back around to talk turkey, I have no delusions about that. But it will be a few weeks before she gets that far. Like I said, she's free to stop by any time she likes.