court scares me If there was true justice cheaters would go to jail and get visitation only. but the courts are fff-d up and
still can add insult to injury and favor a cheating mom over a loyal dad that's so f-ing stupid!!! my saving grace may be she exposed my
daughter to two affairs.
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While I understand the BS wants revenge and punishment for the WS, jail time does not cut it. Should we go to stoning as well? At least 50% of people cheat… We already have 10% of our population in prisons. Now you want to put 50% in prison? Yikes!
Family court is not about justice. That's the issue. We do not criminalize adultery. There are other things that spouses do to each other that ought to be criminalized as well. Adultery, believe it or not, is not the only horrible thing that spouses do.
There are so many divorces these days. The last thing a judge wants to hear is couples all day long trashing each other in court. I've been in court and seen a judge tell spouses (usually women) whose husbands were abusive and adulterers that quite frankly they do not care to be involved in the middle of a couple’s arguments and fight. And to stop trying to prove infidelity, etc. Divorce is no fault and the court does not care who did what. The laws decide how things like income, assets, debts and custody are decided. End of story.
The fact is that in our society, women and men have the legal right to leave their spouse. Divorce and adultery are so common that the courts gave up on the old fault type of divorce a long time ago. They have become divorce factories with standard forms, standard ways of handing cases, etc.
Shoot, when my brother went to his interim support hearing in Sept, there were several other couples, their attorneys, one judge and one court mediator. The mediator took each couple’s financial statements, calculated support. The paper was handed to the judge and the judge signed it. If a couple and/or their attorneys felt they had a special circumstance they got less than 5 minutes of the judges time. Like I said, divorce factories.
I think that no fault divorce is wise as nasty divorces are not good for anyone. And even with adultery there can be extenuating circumstances that are hard to prove I court but still very real.
Sometimes it’s not so easy to tell who really contributed the most or who is really at fault in the demise of a marriage. So better just split the assets and debts, make custody arrangements and let both parties move on with their lives as quickly as possible. Using the court system to punish one’s cheating spouse does not help the BS at all. Remember that negative things.. anger, revenge, etc.. are like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.
There is no longer ownership of another human via marriage.