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post #91 of 102 (permalink) Old 03-08-2017, 09:49 PM
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Re: Did my wife cheat on me? Need help.

Minus the "not getting any", I know what it feels like to have to have eyes in the back of your head. I've been married almost 16 yrs now and almost half of that time has been spent trying to figure out how and when my wife cheated(s) on me. I only know this. It has been a gut wrenching feeling for so long. I wish you the best of luck and hope all goes well for you and your kids.

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We all read story after story on this site about how a suspected cheater says one thing and then another. Gets caught in one lie and then tries to cover it up with another lie.

I have to say its nice to have a positive outcome for once.

I wish you all the best. I hope your marriage really improves becasue of this episode.
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After all I KNOW I did not cheat and I haven't had sex with anyone but myself for the last eight months so it is certainly feasible she has done the same.
You're not wearing crotchless underwear to work.
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I suspect the examiner has years of experience dealing with people lying and relies primarily on that experience. I also suspect he put your W under the gun and under a lot of pressure to crack her if she was lying. That's probably why he says it depends on the examiner.




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I noticed she wore the lingerie to work sometimes including crotchless panties.

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She also surprised me during this time when she all of a sudden out of nowhere started to deep throat (again I apologize for being explicit). Where does a women just learn a trick like that? She would also carry those small fresh breath toothbrushes that require no water or rinsing in her car. I never thought much of it until I started looking at the big ...
This bothers me quite a bit. How did she just start to do deep throat? Those small tooth brushes make me think she was practicing that at work. ...
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I just read about the results of the poly. Congrats on this BUT I would still make sure you keep access to all of her accounts. Better to be able to verify. ....
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This bothers me quite a bit. How did she just start to do deep throat? Those small tooth brushes make me think she was practicing that at work. ...
There are probably videos she could watch.

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There are probably videos she could watch.
Yeah and I'll learn to play the piano just by watching a concert.
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Yeah and I'll learn to play the piano just by watching a concert.
No, but you can learn to play piano by watching videos.

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The reason for the lack of intimacy that she claims is because she has current self esteem issues and thought I had little interest in her. That's the reason she claims she bought the lingerie and why she was aggressively sexual for a brief time. I am honestly guilty of not reciprocating after that period because that is when my suspicions started. She in turn claims that lack of reciprocating lead her to think I didn't want her so she shut down just as I shut down. Wearing the lingerie to work was supposedly some fantasy she conjured up about how she would come home from work and then seduce me right there but that didn't happen due to my mood, kids, etc. Convenient, I know.

Still she reacted shocked by my statements and claims she would never be so selfish and ruin our family. The polygraph will hopefully bring closure one way or the other.
I'm often in the camp of don't jump to conclusions but here it looks like a tiny little hop is all that's needed.

Wearing crotchless underwear to work would fly if she then came home and took the first opportunity to get you away from the kids, or suggested that you meet for lunch and then tease you with the info. If she was just trying it out she'd have bought just one pair.

Getting a bikini wax for someone you are not having sex with sounds doubtful. I've seen a couple of YouTube videos of ladies getting waxed, top half shots only, and never seen one shouting "Ohhhh, that tickles". I believe that most women have to have a real reason for doing that.

I wish you luck with the lie detector.

Edit: Just read forward and saw your lie detector results. I hope things work out for you.


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I just deleted a thread jack about teaching dogs to deep throat.


Anyone who continues this thread jack and/or continues side discussions not relevant to the OP will get a time-out ban.

I'm not sure how anyone thinks that is line of discussion is supporting the OP. In the future, only reply to the OP.

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I think the polygraph is correct. However, do not be too hard on yourself. Even the truth has most people scratching their heads at why in the world your wife was afraid to send you naughty pictures or why she didn't just talk to you at any point. There's a clear lack of communication going on that could benefit from therapy.
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