Re: Trying to Stop Wife Before She Decides to Cheat.
Sometimes there's a fine line regarding when the best time to confront is. But I'm going to suggest a different strategy than most have.
Right now, if you readily have access to her messages and she thinks everything is fine with you; that's a huge advantage in your favor. One that I would hate to give up so quickly, by revealing your concerns with what she said in them. That's the type of information where there's no real way you can avoid her knowing how you know. Then you risk taking her taking things underground going forward. And she could very will explain it away as girl talk or at least attempt to. Even if she admits she was wrong and apologizes, you've still lost your trump card. Personally, I'd want to see if I could find evidence that she couldn't try to explain away; that was worth giving up the advantage you have right now.
Add to that; what are the chances of talking your wife out of cheating? If she wants to cheat, she'll do it - just more carefully.
So, I would act like nothing's wrong. I would continue to monitor her messages a while longer and use other methods as well. Spyware on her phone, cell records, VAR. Then see what you come up with.
Last edited by badmemory; 03-06-2017 at 10:25 AM.