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post #136 of 332 (permalink) Old 03-06-2017, 01:52 PM Thread Starter
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One last lesson.....and this for ALL RE-MARRIAGES or GETTING MARRIED again = Pre-nup....protect your investments.
I actually did a pre-nup and post-nup. Still giving up some decent money but could have been much worse. I tell everyone to do a prenup and if she won't, that's a huge red flag.

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Oh yeah there might be a chance. Say...when she hears he's bedding new ladies. She may try to get him back, but not because she wants him. She just wouldn't want anyone else to have him.

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This will be the case. My sister in law already asked her if she would be bothered if I dated someone and my wife does not like the idea of me dating anyone. Crazy
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I disagree with you, i have personally seen it work in a number of cases and i would suggest that it is better to have a little protection than no protection. i am not suggesting it's the end all but it does have some teeth.
I'm not disagreeing with you either. Any possible protection is better than no protection so if you're going to make the mistake of getting married again at least get the prenup, but my point is that if you really want to cover your ASSets, then don't get married PERIOD. There's a ton of risk especially a subsequent marriage when you've got prexisting assets and no real gain except perhaps health insurance or some other benefits that nowadays you probably can get anyway with "domestic partner" status which is what I have with my girlfriend.
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This will be the case. My sister in law already asked her if she would be bothered if I dated someone and my wife does not like the idea of me dating anyone. Crazy
Of course not. You're hers until she's done with you, and she's not done with you yet.

Why else do you think all of her crap is still under your roof?

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One last lesson.....and this for ALL RE-MARRIAGES or GETTING MARRIED again = Pre-nup....protect your investments.
I had no investments before I got married.

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This will be the case. My sister in law already asked her if she would be bothered if I dated someone and my wife does not like the idea of me dating anyone. Crazy
Your job is to remain lost and alone and pining away for her for the rest of your life, so that she can come back to you if she wants to, or else you die from grief and anguish, curled up in the fetal position on the cold floor of the back room of an empty house at the end of some forgotten street.
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Good to hear! I am working to get in great shape. It makes it easier without any other time commitments other than work. I'm a popular/fun guy and decent looking. My friends want to have a big "re-releasing into the wild" party for me when the divorce is final. They seem more excited about my prospects than I am.
Of course they are excited for you. Because for the next however long they are going to be living vicariously thru you!

My wife left me all of a sudden after 30 years for a mutual friend (more hers than mine apparently, Look up Hoosier which was my user name until the great cleansing happened a year or so ago) I was completely lost. A friend told me the exact same thing about availability of women at your age, I am older, but it applies down the line, in the service it is called "target rich environment"! He told me that in your 20's women call all the shots, but after 40, way more women then men, and many of the men available set the bar so low that if you have the three P's (Property, Paycheck, Personality) that you will be in high demand. He was spot on. I know that I have improved more than one marriage. The husband talks to me, finds out how easy it is to date, tells his wife all the stories (hoping she will up her game a bit, and they have!) and has enjoy the benefits, both in the hearing and telling of my stories.

Time is your answer. I am 5.5 years out from DDay, it took me a couple of years to even start to feel right (length of marriage affects length of recovery) and even in the last year I feel better, work better, than ever. Time is your answer my friend.

So sorry you are here, but I believe in the future you will thank your lucky stars that you had no children with her. Find a good woman, they are out there.
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I'm telling you. Spanking the hell out of her stupid butt cheeks solves a lot of these immature issues.

She is an entitled, spoiled brat that hasn't apparently been denied enough in her life to appreciate good things and decency.

Start dating my friend.
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This will be the case. My sister in law already asked her if she would be bothered if I dated someone and my wife does not like the idea of me dating anyone. Crazy
Not so crazy. You have been promoted out of husband status and are now put into the role of parent. She wants you to approve of what she's doing and to help her make the transition as painless as possible.

Think about it. You are obviously NOT hated nor despised. You have been and are a major part of her life.
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But not an important enough part of her life to be respected.

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Not so crazy. You have been promoted out of husband status and are now put into the role of parent. She wants you to approve of what she's doing and to help her make the transition as painless as possible.

Think about it. You are obviously NOT hated nor despised. You have been and are a major part of her life.
Of course she'll want to do the "lets be friends" thing.

Not in your best interest.
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This will be the case. My sister in law already asked her if she would be bothered if I dated someone and my wife does not like the idea of me dating anyone. Crazy
In general waywards hate having options taken away from them. The more you start to act independent/single the more she will try and keep you attached. She won't like you packed all her stuff, she won't like you possibly dating, it takes away her perceived control over you.

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Your job is to remain lost and alone and pining away for her for the rest of HER life, so that she can come back to you if she wants to, or else you die from grief and anguish, curled up in the fetal position on the cold floor of the back room of an empty house at the end of some forgotten street.
LOL.
Sorry, just made one small correction in bold. Remember, it is all about "her."
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Your job is to remain lost and alone and pining away for her for the rest of your life, so that she can come back to you if she wants to, or else you die from grief and anguish, curled up in the fetal position on the cold floor of the back room of an empty house at the end of some forgotten street.
This made me laugh out loud. It's so true. She wants me to be devastated about this but has heard from her family that I am doing well. My brother in law told her I look great and he had no idea a divorce could make someone so healthy looking.
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Well, she ain't gone yet. She got an apartment, not a ticket the town 1000 miles away. She may never move when she realizes how hard it will be and you have burned her bridge back to you.
If her stuff is still in the house ask her sisters and family to move it to their house by a specific date. Like Mar 10.

By the way...Did you ever contact or talk to the OM wife? Is he really available? He may still be married or in R with his wife or trying to keep his family together. Don;t believe what she tells you he told her, as he might be lying to her to string her along. Personally, if I were the OM and had a sidepiece 1000 miles away who was hot for me, I might be less than honest with her about my marital situation...just sayin.
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