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post #421 of 463 (permalink) Old 04-19-2017, 09:03 PM
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He needs a sports car--an obnoxious, fast, eye-catchy one.

And a boat.

And lots of beautiful, bikini/clad women in both. Enjoy the single life for a while.

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He needs a sports car--an obnoxious, fast, eye-catchy one.

And a boat.

And lots of beautiful, bikini/clad women in both. Enjoy the single life for a while.
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He needs a sports car--an obnoxious, fast, eye-catchy one.

And a boat.

And lots of beautiful, bikini/clad women in both. Enjoy the single life for a while.
Id recommend a jaguar convertible
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Id recommend a jaguar convertible
Bought a Range Rover in February knowing the end was near. I love that we all think the same way!
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How about this!

0-60 in (2.3 SECONDS)
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You need a motorcycle.


This is the correct answer for everyone.
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I would give up breathing for that beauty!!
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I would give up breathing for that beauty!!
No list price yet as far as I know.
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Range rovers are hawt. I had one growing up. Good choice. Jag would be good too, provided its older than 1989. I like me a true jag.
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@Clemson

I am happy for you that you are finally getting out of this mess, welcome to the single life

You deserve better and believe me your time is just starting, a lot of good stuff will happen to you as you focus on yourself and your happiness.

All the best and enjoy your life

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I always liked the Jag in Harold and Maude:

"“Your brunette,” was how Gleed had described her. What had given him that idea? Had she made some remark that he’d construed as complimentary because it had contained no reference to outsize ears?" - "And Then There Were None", Eric Frank Russell, 1951.
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Bought a Range Rover in February knowing the end was near. I love that we all think the same way!

Get you a good Cadillac Escalade loaded. I had a Range Rover.....mechanics retirement plan. I spent too much time going to Nashville to get it worked on.

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I found this board and thought I would start a thread to see if I can get thoughts from others. My Wife is probably too far gone.

Little background on marriage. My Wife and I had a great Marriage and wonderful life. We met when she was 23 and I was 32. Wife is an old soul who likes to sew and cook and comes from a great family where church and family are the focus. She was a late bloomer and really didn't become attractive until college. She is the youngest of 3 daughters. Wife was sweet, loving, loyal and very attractive - perfect wife material. Wife and I were married in 2010 after dating for 3 years. Wife dated one guy all through college before breaking up with him and then meeting me. From the beginning, she was obsessed with me and would not even go out with her friends unless I came too.

We spent all our time together and genuinely loved being with each other. Without a doubt, we were each other’s best friends. Wife was definitely co-dependent on me and I was with her to some extent. I am an attorney and Wife works in insurance and we have no kids so we traveled extensively and generally lived a fun life. My wife complained about very little and never voiced any problems in our marriage. Wife always seemed happy and we almost never fought.

In April 2016, I started a new law firm which began taking up a lot of my time. Wife also started a new job that required her to travel. We seemed to be acclimating fine to this different/stressful time in our lives. I was working particularly long hours in September and October.

In November 2016, I come home from work to find Wife crying on our couch. Wife says she met a male co-worker and they had an affair during 3 week-long business trips (which happened during the period of my birthday and our anniversary). Apparently they really connected and had great passion. Wife says she was lonely and didn't know she was unhappy until she met OM. OM is 35 years old and married with three small children and lives in another state 1000 miles away. I was devastated and never suspected A. Wife tells me she loves me and chooses me over the OM. Wife has deep feelings for OM. Wife sends a no contact text to OM the next day and shows it to me. Wife seemed genuinely remorseful. Wife's two sisters tell me they too had no idea she was in trouble despite talking to her almost everyday. Her entire family is saddened by Wife's actions.

Two weeks later we are boarding a plane for a previously scheduled trip. I look over and see Wife texting OM and I almost have a panic attack. OM has told his wife of the affair but can’t stop thinking of my wife. My wife says OM reached out to her the night before and said “thinking of you”. Wife apologizes and I take her phone and text OM to never contact my wife or I will tell their employer about what is going on. We then start couples counseling. Wife tells counselor she wants to make our Marriage work.

Another two weeks later though, my wife gives me the ILYBNILWY line. I’m stunned. When I challenge her that she barely knows OM she says she's known him "101 days" like a teenager. I'm really concerned I'm losing her. But over the remainder of December, things are actually pretty good as we work on us. On New Year's Eve, we are at a party and Wife says she is thinking of OM. I lose it and tell her I'm done with the marriage.

The next day, Wife is sobbing and tells me she can't live without me, she wishes A never happened and she will quit her job if it means she keeps me. In late January 2017, we go out of town and one night Wife breaks down crying and says she can't get over OM. My heart is broken.

Once back home, Wife tells me she wants to separate so she can have time to think. I tell Wife we can do in-home separation on one condition: that she not contact OM. Wife refuses and I make her leave our home. Two days later Wife contacts OM and finds out he has been kicked out of his house by his wife and lives with his brother now. OM is interested in continuing the A. On February 12, I meet WW and she tells me she is choosing OM over me. Wife says she missed me at first but when she found out OM wasn't with his wife, the separation was easier. I kick Wife out of our house and immediately filed for D. I won't be plan b option.

Since then, I have gone no contact (I also gave up pursuing several weeks earlier). Wife comes by every Sunday to get clothes for work week and to talk about finances/divorce and while she is home she asks how my week has been, etc like nothing is wrong. I can't believe this is the same wife who would eagerly wait for me to come home every day just 6-8 months ago.

Wife wants to move where OM lives even though she has never been to that state, knows no one but OM there, has never lived outside our city, might lose her job and would be leaving all friends and family.

Wife's entire family is against her decision and has helped me through this. They think my Wife is lost and didn't give our M a chance. I did not ask for their help but they desperately want our M to work. Personal friends have called asking if she has a brain tumor because this is not the person they know. This A has almost zero chance of working and there is literally no one encouraging Wife to leave other than OM. Yet here we are. Everyone I tell is stunned that Wife would have an A. It was so out of character for her. She is so distant and uncaring now. We have been together over 9 years and it's like it meant nothing. For someone so obsessed with me, I can't believe our lack of communication doesn't bother her at some level.

Looking back, I can't believe I have put up with all this over the past 3 months. I foresee my Wife returning in the future but I don't know if I would even want her back. Filing for divorce did not snap her out of it. I have lost 20 lbs and am in the best shape I've been in 15 years. Anything else I should be doing? Any words of encouragement? I'd be lying if I said I don't miss her everyday still.
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Maybe your wife wanted you to be more aggressive in fighting for her after she confessed the affair. If she was person that did everything with you and that suddenly changed it meant she felt neglected and immaturely looked for it in someone else arms. You sound like you want your wife and that filing for a divorce was just for the sole purpose of "snapping her out of it". If you want your wife go get her. Bang on the other man's door, punch him and tell him to don't come near your wife again. Look her straight in the eye and tell her "get your s**t, we are going home. Homage to every bad boy romance i have ever read.

Get some bail money just in case. She wants back as much as you want her, that is why she keeps coming around. She wants you to aggressively fight for her and your marriage.
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Maybe your wife wanted you to be more aggressive in fighting for her after she confessed the affair. If she was person that did everything with you and that suddenly changed it meant she felt neglected and immaturely looked for it in someone else arms. You sound like you want your wife and that filing for a divorce was just for the sole purpose of "snapping her out of it". If you want your wife go get her. Bang on the other man's door, punch him and tell him to don't come near your wife again. Look her straight in the eye and tell her "get your s**t, we are going home. Homage to every bad boy romance i have ever read.

Get some bail money just in case. She wants back as much as you want her, that is why she keeps coming around. She wants you to aggressively fight for her and your marriage.
You keep taking the pills dude,I'm sure you will get better.
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