Re: Second Guessing Decision to Divorce
I've been divorced since mid-May of last year. My XW had a very long EA (probable PA) with her "friend" from work.
Luckily, my ex didn't do any vindictive $#it or come after my money. Even with that, I struggle financially. I purchased a town home in a high cost suburb. There have been times that I couldn't afford things my boys wanted.
Honestly, it has been difficult for my boys. Our marriage lasted 17 years.
All that said, IT FEELS SO GOOD to not have to worry or wonder what she's up to.
I have a GF. When we see each other, there's a lot of getting busy, but it's not the same.
At times, I miss her and the way our family used to be. When those times happen, all I do is pull out my phone and look at the screen shot of the email from her "friend" saying how bad he wants to kiss her. Then, I look at a family pic taken THE VERY NEXT DAY and think "ahhh - I'm over being sad." The sadness sort of turns into anger, then I remember why we divorced. Then, I think of my freedom and my open future. Then, I go back to being awesome.
Not sure if that trick is healthy, but it works for me.