Re: Do cheaters always cheat again?
Personally I never understood this question around the aftermath of cheating, to me it doesn't matter if they will do it again, once is enough. I think the better question is what kind of people do you allow in your romantic-life? How do you expect to be treated and what are the ramifications of the person treating you in such a poor way? What would it say to other, as far as how I demand to be treated, when I am willing to continue in the most personal way with the person who has hurt me the most. What does it do to ones soul and self respect if someone can abuse them and yet you still maintain such a close and dependent relationship? Is this really a healthy choice?
I would and have asked myself what kind of person am I if I let someone treat me so poorly and continue to associate with them? What does that say about my feeling of morality? Where does the reconciliation start to encroach on my dignity?
No person is worth my honor, even if that person is me wanting to R. I have always said if someone blatantly cheated I would adamantly reject R, if I were to change my mind at that point, what kind of person would I be.
I am sure this thinking is very foreign to many.
Somewhat, although I agree with you to a point. I think the best thing a BS can do is kick the WS out and be done with them. DONE. ONLY after that is it possible to R, and only THEN if the WS proves they're a different and better person, because at that point what you had is over, and the only way to be together is to start totally new. No one ever does this though - people are way too scared of the relationship ending. Which should tell them something right there - who the hell wants to be with someone just because they're SCARED??
People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks.
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