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post #181 of 183 (permalink) Old 03-11-2017, 02:07 PM
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Re: Found explicit text messages in fiance's old phone.....

Originally Posted by phillybeffandswiss View Post
I'm comparing acts. He lied about a woman and she lied about a man. That's it for me and they are already in counseling. Nope, move on. Neither of them are honest based on the "she is jealous so, I will lie" and "we were in a bad place so, I lied." Both reasons foster mistrust so, it is time to go.
If he's in a relationship w/ someone to whom he feels the need to lie about something so trivial (and apparently he is), he needs to get out of that relationship.

So that's two reasons to dump her.

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Re: Found explicit text messages in fiance's old phone.....

Originally Posted by EHuntIMF View Post
Update: Talked with my therapist the other day and she said for me to take some time and not talk to her for a week. She also wants to go over some Anger release techniques at our next session. She also informed me that she had told my soon-to-be-ex to not contact me until next week at the earliest as well. The therapist apparently gave her some exercises to do to try and understand the why behind what she did, but also wants to meet with us together in the future to discuss this.

I will take this weekend to go out and just have some fun with friends.

That's it....N/C continues
a good "anger release technique" is to punch and kick the **** out of a heavy bag at the gym!
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Re: Found explicit text messages in fiance's old phone.....

Originally Posted by sokillme View Post
This is a mess, first of don't feel guilty about trusting your gut. Next why are you lying to her that is not how a good relationship works. Finally because you lied about tickets she decided to sext an ex. Seriously? She then tells you it was because she is lonely. Um life 101 everyone gets lonely. People who have to contact ex-partners because you are busy have no business being married. A healthy and frankly very normal response for this is saying "hey I am really feeling lonely lets do something, go on a trip, day trip, get coffee every night." This is how normal healthy people deal with this. Seriously call it quits, sounds like you already went through this once. She is no prize. There are thousands and thousands of better women out there.

You need to figure out why you are ending up with these types of women. Your lying because you are afraid to talk about stuff is a good start. It's already a passive aggressive dynamic.

Couldn't of said it better myself.

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