Re: Found explicit text messages in fiance's old phone.....
You both lie over stupid crap. Time for you both to find someone new. You knowingly lie to cover up something. When you guys are in a bad place she goes to an ex.
I'm not going to get into the "scales of justice, whose act was worse" derails. You both do bad crap to each other for your own gratification. Why stay with someone when you can't be honest with each other? Sorry, I wouldn't entangle myself in a mess like this at all. Yes, it sucks, but it is only 3 years. She had a clue with your lie concerning a woman and she chose to stay. You now have a clue with her concerning a man and you also have a choice. Yes, some will call you a hypocrite, but oh well. Better to be a hypocrite than be in marriage where, you wonder when you piss each other off if your spouse is going outside the marriage to get what they want.
Time to go.