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post #106 of 183 (permalink) Old 03-07-2017, 04:09 PM
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I was talking to you when I wrote that but I'm not talking to you right now.
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Not all lies are created equally. If he lied because he knew it would needlessly escalate on her part, then so be it.

Can we concentrate on the fact that she wanted to screw her ex and got MAD that her BF fell asleep on the couch "like a guard dog"?

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Why everybody so fixated on the tickets **** the tickets what about the text messages and all that stuff you haven't said one word about that because these idiots are all fixated on you lying like it's OK for her to cheat.
Everyone is not. I and a few others are talking about the lies from both parties. They are in separate counseling, he admits they had trouble beforehand and they both lie about the opposite sex with excuses.
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Yeah...because getting lied to exonerates her from all responsibility.
Of course.....I forgot that any attempt to address anything a betrayed might have done to damage the relationship equates to exonerating the cheater of all responsibility.

They should all be canonized.

I'll try to remember that
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So, everytime she feels lonely she'll turn to her ex?
Everytime she wants attention she'll turn to her ex?
Everytime you're busy she'll turn to her ex?
Everytime you're simply not in the mood to be with her, she'll turn to her ex?

She's a spoiled, attention-seeker and life is WAY TOO LONG and marriage WAY TOO COMPLICATED to be dealing with such woman. There will be times in your marriage when I'd rather you not be with her or simply spend some time alone.



What's her solution??





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Yep..you guessed it right.



She'll turn to her ex.

Davelli0331: If a GNO, or alcohol, or an attractive coworker, or a past flame on FB were all that were needed for someone to cheat, then I think that person had that defect in their integrity all along. All they ever lacked was the opportunity to act on their lack of integrity and the circumstances required to rationalize it to themselves.
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Wife.

Not girlfriend.

Not fiancé.

Wife.

You fail the audition, you don't (or shouldn't) get the job.






A well-kept lawn won't keep a hoe at bay.

But the constant grass stains on her knees makes for a big red flag.
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Of course.....I forgot that any attempt to address anything a betrayed might have done to damage the relationship equates to exonerating the cheater of all responsibility.

They should all be canonized.

I'll try to remember that
Canonized? Nnoooo-

This is a bush league answer.

And I do agree, all sides of an argument must be offered up.

But yours is an unfair comparison. Made, in my opinion to jerk back on the leashes of the gnarling dogs here. Male mutts, in "participle".

Some men on TAM, know the glint of your steel. And some here believe you WOULD Canonize the OP.

You would fire him out of a cannon if his White Buck shoes had dirty toes.

This case? An unfair comparison, as written by OP.

Do you remember when we first met ~about one year ago? I think I had made about ten posts....and you put me in your cross-hairs ahead of your cross face.

Some men never learn.

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Are there other female friends she's not comfortable with?
Perhaps she is uncomfortable with female friends, relatives, whatever because she knows her own 'problems' with the male friends in her life?

Are we talking about this type of jealousy?


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Of course.....I forgot that any attempt to address anything a betrayed might have done to damage the relationship equates to exonerating the cheater of all responsibility.

They should all be canonized.

I'll try to remember that
Can I offer you an aspirin for that sore forehead?

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Yeah @GusPolinski was LOLing at your supposedly poor advise while jumping to an irrational conclusion that she is currently sexting with other men and the ex boyfriend when nothing was stated to even remotely support that conclusion.


That's my point.

What's unfortunate here is that a member cannot post differing advice to the OP without the frat boys jumping in and laughing and criticizing.

****, my question to OP was how is the rest of the relationship other that than this? And that gets attacked? WTF!

Just ask the admin to set up a macro so that some of you automatically type "Dump her" in any thread opened in this forum.

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That's my point.

What's unfortunate here is that a member cannot post differing advice to the OP without the frat boys jumping in and laughing and criticizing.

****, my question to OP was how is the rest of the relationship other that than this? And that gets attacked? WTF!
Are you still whining on about this?
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This is what you should be focused on, rather than the dozen guys that say dump her.
You were the one encouraging OP to disregard other posters advice because it differed from your own.
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Perhaps she is uncomfortable with female friends, relatives, whatever because she knows her own 'problems' with the male friends in her life?

Are we talking about this type of jealousy?

Maybe. It's just not a good idea to assume that, which is why I asked. Could be lots of things ranging from her projecting to him having questionable boundaries.

He has since clarified this.

I was trying to to get an idea of the dynamic between the two of them because I think better advice can be given that way, even if it's ultimately to help OP improve for his next relationship.

People who have no reason to lie typically don't lie. He's here and she isn't so I asked him.
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Couples counseling and you're not even married?

Geez.
At one time vicars, parsons and priests used to insist on what was, in effect, couple's counselling before a couple got spliced.

But nowadays? Everyone wants it all and they wants it all now.

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Are you still whining on about this?

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Nah, I just read these for the entertainment. I like to hear what the basement dwellers post.

Dump her.

Check the phone.

Get a VAR.

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