My wife says I should just trust what she says that nothing ever happened and that I should have never looked any further into it. She says that's what she would have done if this situation was reversed. I know trust is important, but this situation seems a little off to me. This is my first relationship so maybe I'm not being too trusting. She says her and the dude only talked about work stuff on phones before and after work and that they'd get each other breakfast too when they worked together. My friend says I'm just jealous and I should go to my own therapist, which I am going to now. I am not going to that marriage therapist anymore as she does nothing for us. She says she didn't want to discuss the situation any further because my wife might leave me.
Here's what you do my man. You need proof of her cheating? I'll get you proof. Step 1 is accepting everything she said in that paragraph I quoted above. "Sorry, I got a little crazy. It's just that you know how much I love you...kissy kissy". Let everything get back to normal. Then, the next time she goes out on her girls night, you have a PI ready to get video footage. Her annual "girls weekend" would have more damning evidence, but that is remote, right?
Wait Real. How did you know she does all of this?
We meet at a club, she approached me.
The second part of that sentence was redundant. We know how it works when you continue with...
After a few weeks of dating we went to the club with a guy and a girl and my wife(gf at time) grinded hardcore on the guy in front of me. I asked her about it and she said it was cuz he got us in for free.
That sentence fascinates me in so many ways and on so many different levels. If we weed out MY issues and stick strictly with yours, we have to start with the hint of prostitution. And I don't just mean your wife paying for your date with a lap dance. I'm old and didn't club much when I was young, so this "grinding" thing passed me bye. But to an outside observer, I always tried to give it a non sexual benefit of the doubt. It's just an art form, right? Self expression. A girl does NOT just walk up to a guy and try to get him off in the middle of a dance floor, does she? (Short answer: I can guarantee it happens all the time).
So, we have you guys dating for "a few weeks". In that time, you've seen her pick up one guy and get pretty far with him (I'm talking about you. Did you hit third base?). Then three weeks later you see her have sex with another guy on a dance floor. Same dance floor she made enjoyable for YOU a few weeks back, right?
How often does she go now? Have a PI ready with a cell phone with a good camera waiting next time. What? They closed down the old lounge in the Holiday Inn? Go to the one she trolls now with her married gal pals. I'll bet they're quite a pack.
She quit for a while after you got married. But after she got back in shape after the two kids, she ht it pretty hard again, didn't she?