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post #31 of 158 (permalink) Old 03-08-2017, 06:02 PM
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Re: red flags everywhere or am I crazy?

Are you as unconvinced by her responses as I am?

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Re: red flags everywhere or am I crazy?

Yes I am. This is so stressful
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You want the truth? Tell her you want a divorce. You don't have to mean it, but she has to think you do. You'll get your answer.

I'll get through this, one day at a time.
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At least you're not in denial. Lots of betrayed spouses are and they're like sitting ducks.
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She says if I don't believe her then I should divorce her (previously). She says I'm pushing her away
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She says if I don't believe her then I should divorce her (previously)
You need to back off and stop being confrontational. It's not working for you.
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so you have a choice you can either sweep rug all of these red flags and move on with your life ALWAYS wondering if she is being honest with you, and ALWAYS wondering about what she is hiding....you may never know but be content that at least you have a marriage, not a good one but a marriage for some that is enough.... or address this....go full on exposure and seek the truth....you may not like the answers, you may not get all the answers and your marriage may devolve depending on how much she is willing to share and more importantly how much you mean to her over him.
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I dunno why she would tell me that he has a crush on her if she didn't want me to investigate further, like I would think that's the last thing she would want to tell me.
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She tells me she told me everything. I have no way of getting anything out of her. She says she had to really rack her brain to remember everything to tell me.
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I dunno why she would tell me that he has a crush on her if she didn't want me to investigate further, like I would think that's the last thing she would want to tell me.
It's a deflection, a half truth, whatever.

She's giving you a partial truth so you'll back off and it's one less thing she has to hide. Helps explain back and forth texts, phone calls, etc.

I don't doubt for a second that he's got a crush on her. But it's not the whole story.

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you know she is holding back...its not like she suddenly has dementia...okay ask her if she is willing to take a polygraph and see what she say...look her straight in the eyes and see if her eyes move downward and to the left.
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Current tactic is not working. Suggest that he should contact attorney ASAP to protect himself. He is already getting trickle truthed. She clearly had sex with the guy. He should see the attorney, and do the 180. It is best way to save the marriage. She isn't going to be more forthright until he shows he is serious. He should consider filing for a divorce
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Why do I need to protect myself......from what? What is the 180?
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If you want the truth do a deleted text recovery on her phone. Fonelab, Etc. there are many systems that can pull the deleted info. Look it up.
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