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post #121 of 158 (permalink) Old 03-16-2017, 09:54 AM
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What is a sane adult huh? Polygraph? Doesn't work.. bug her car? She doesn't talk to him.. Get deleted texts? First you have to root that erases the phone
If you have to erase the phone to root it, then erase it. What's so important that it can't be backed up before the scan? That's like saying you need a biopsy for potential cancer there's that whole thing where you have to be cut with a scalpel.

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If you erase it all messages including deleted ones are forever gone.
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God, you are so pathetic.

Stop your passive ridiculous behavior and SPROUT a set for God's sakes. Your wishy-washy outlook and constant fear of your own shadow is about as UNATTRACTIVE to a woman as it can possibly get. No woman respects a coward.

Find your damned spine and start running the SHOW - which begins with a polygraph test for her lying ass.

People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks.

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OK, this might sound strange, but I'm thinking about getting her totally on my side and manipulating her a bit. Talk about how much I want a 3 sum or something and tell her that my fantasies are other guys doing stuff to her. Then be like I'm not going to judge you for cheating or anything just tell me about it. This should in theory get her comfortable with me and talking more to me. She would be more willing to tell me since she is telling me other dark stuff about her life now. But if she's not actually cheating it could make her want to...that could be a weird rabbit hole.
You are grasping at straws. Your thinking process is skewed.

You are just going to throw another layer of issues on top of what is already going through your head.

Your insecurity is driving you towards the irrational. STOP IT. Stop the irrational mind games. Stop letting her rent space in your head.

This kind of cosmic dumbassery occupies a temporal plane of ineptitude and lack of reason so profound a Zen master could spend a lifetime meditating upon its philosophical consequences.
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I'm leaning towards the last four words of the thread title.


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OK, this might sound strange, but I'm thinking about getting her totally on my side and manipulating her a bit. Talk about how much I want a 3 sum or something and tell her that my fantasies are other guys doing stuff to her. Then be like I'm not going to judge you for cheating or anything just tell me about it. This should in theory get her comfortable with me and talking more to me. She would be more willing to tell me since she is telling me other dark stuff about her life now. But if she's not actually cheating it could make her want to...that could be a weird rabbit hole.
Now you're on to something!

It does sound strange.

I cannot even begin to wrap my head around how your mind works and all the twisted logic you come up with.
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post #128 of 158 (permalink) Old 03-16-2017, 04:51 PM Thread Starter
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Ok realistically here. Any therapist. What can they actually do at this point? She will continue to lie etc. They can't extract the truth from her. I can say that every session we are going to discuss it but that gets us nowhere. It looks like our goal is to rebuild trust, but yeah...

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@youaremetoo, you are most assuredly NOT me too. My mind doesn't think in any way even remotely like yours I am glad to say.

People don't get a free pass to cheat just because their marriage sucks.

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What is a sane adult huh? Polygraph? Doesn't work.. bug her car? She doesn't talk to him.. Get deleted texts? First you have to root that erases the phone
To what end? To prove she's s cheat and liar?

You already know that.

How old are you?

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God, you are so pathetic.

Stop your passive ridiculous behavior and SPROUT a set for God's sakes. Your wishy-washy outlook and constant fear of your own shadow is about as UNATTRACTIVE to a woman as it can possibly get. No woman respects a coward.

Find your damned spine and start running the SHOW - which begins with a polygraph test for her lying ass.
QFT!

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You don't have to root the phone with DrFone I don't believe..
It's a moot point though.
According to her she is a serial cheaters.
Google it, they can't stop cheating.
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Youaremetoo,

I have had great advise here over and over again, instead you are so desperate to get to the truth of her lies, but are dealing a pathetically lier who can spin her web of deceit and distortion before you and you are powerless to figure this out....she will not crack because she has no incentive to do so....its self preservation.....listen to your gut, but i tell you right now, you can stay with her, and cuckold spouse, know that she will continue to see him behind your back....or you cut your loses and move on with your life...but you won't.
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Ok got new logs from when they actually worked together and they texted each other and called each other a ton before and after work. And sent pics dunno what they are though..this all keeps getting worse.
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Ok got new logs from when they actually worked together and they texted each other and called each other a ton before and after work. And sent pics dunno what they are though..this all keeps getting worse.
Sorry bro.....Trust your gut
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