Re: What NOT to Do
A couple of things:
1. NEVER EVER let someone define your value, merit, attractiveness, etc. She's just one woman that you fell in love with, but she is not THE AUTHOURITY on jack squat.
2. Learn to value yourself. She is NOT essential to your life, happiness, or self worth, even if right now you can't see it. Just because you value her does not mean that she is valuable to you, good for you, or for anyone.
3. (I use "couple" to describe several) While you cannot turn love off like a light switch, (A) you can take mental steps to detach and ultimately move on. Loving someone is not a bond that cannot be broken. (B) Once you detach, you find out that like a dimmer switch, love turns off. One day you just don't.
4. Being broke, fat, toothless, and having a stutter will not stop you from finding a woman who likes your broke, fat, toothless, stuttering self. I have seen objectively ugly people with folks who adore them. I once saw this woman who was not pretty by conventional standards and she was a huge and sweaty, fat fingered woman. (I notice hands). Her man was a stud. I mean muscular, good complexion, etc. All of these women were hitting on him. He passed. I watched him feed his woman chicken wings. Make out with her on the dance floor, and cop some uncomfortable to watch feels of her butt. She was his queen. I also know a guy who actually is missing teeth and does not look that great. His wife is very attractive. She absolutely loves him. She pursued him.
chin up. Also, divorce this woman. At least file and keep moving forward. Loving her is like loving meth. It makes you feel awesome, but it destroys your body and soul.