Realistically it doesn't happen that way and I'm not even sure I agree with you that it should. A new poster that comes into a forum with guns blaring, making flaming posts and name-calling is probably looking at a permanent ban because their motives are suspicious and they do not have an established record of contributions to the forum. An old member, whose motives are not in question, who might cross a line and break a rule in their hasty knee jerk emotional response to post they find offensive, may get a slap on the wrist, and yes I think that's fair.
The exact thing happened to me this very morning, here on this forum. Despite the fact that I discourage others to call out a troll because it's 1- against the rules and 2- not a good idea because it only feeds the troll, I made a callout on just such a thread, which is now closed by the moderators one of whom also openly questioned it's validity (because it was such a blatent work of fiction). I received a warning from a moderator to basically cut the crap, but there was no ban, and no "flag" on my account for the transaction. You can bet a 5 post newbie would have taken a harder hit, and for good reason. The good contributions do, to some extent outweigh the bad. That's why your car insurance might not go up for the first speeding ticket but it will after the third accident especially if you've been with that same insurance company for a long time.
Hard working moderators on a forum are certainly going to get a more lenient response from their fellow moderators. Cops speed all the time and don't get tickets. You said it yourself:
You're starting to sound somewhat whiney about the policies over at LS. I'm going to suggest you take a deep breath, understand they are going to do whatever they want over there and there's nothing you can do about it except decide to take your posts elsewhere and not waste your valuable time and energy getting bent out of shape over the unfairness of it all.
We can agree to disagree. I wasn't referring to moderators moderating themselves but moderate the readership fairly. With the exception of LS, moderators here and SI do a great job of being fair. Well, unlike LS who hide themselves we know who they are and because we do there is accountability. What Ms. Shimmers wrote is what I heard they interchange themselves so William can be mods, b, c, or d. Same for Robert, and the others. You can tell them apart. It is ridiculous. AND they all have there own member name to, or three or four.
You are entitled to your opinion.
Regarding fair play. I can spin sentences to, or leave things out to change context,
Life isn't fair. We're here looking for support for injustice in our relationship or to help get out of infidelity or any number of topics with marriage. Not to watch the (while entertaining) bickering when forum hook ups fail or be scared to write something not PC and face banishment, even in PM's.
I guess being on a relationship forum wanting fair play by the moderators is whiny in your opinion.
So a first time poster who maybe hurting or heaven forbid whiny goes against forum rules, but because they are new should be banned immediately whereas a seasoned pro shouldn't. Okay.
A new employee is hired he makes a critical error costing the company money, he is fired. You have been working for many many years. You made the same mistake, but because you've been with the company you only deserve a hand slap not firing?
We agree to disagree.
There are many know it alls. I guess being married to the second president has its perks at least on LS. But there are posters here that post on all the forums, who believe they're experts but if you read there posts, its do as I say not as I do. But life isn't fair. Dang whining again.