Do you actually believe AP went and picked up both sets of kids at school? The BS must be on heavy medications or bed ridden. I can't read any more to find out. It's too unbelievable.
She has been cheating with her best friend's husband for over three years.
Have you, your spouses or your affair partner, or either spouse had a health crisis during the affair ?
How did you deal?
I'm genuinely worried and upset so just looking for anyone to relate, or to distract myself maybe.
I am ok. My husband is away so I was just alone with my thoughts last night. .
MM got hurt at work last week, it was an awful day. I'm listed as an emergency contact (please no judgement there, it turned out to be a smart choice since his wife was unable to be reached) he was rushed to hospital I ended up having to pick up their kids and mine from school and had really barely any idea what was going on for about 3 hours other than he was stable but might lose a limb!
It was honestly one of the most horrible few hours. I couldnt reach my husband or his wife and when I finally did she of course went to the hospital and I kept the kids overnight.
I was able to go see him the next day and he was let out fairly quickly but then infection set in. Hoping things will be ok but he's still in a lot of pain.
She took the morning off the day after the accident but then went right back to work. He's home but basically bedridden and goes to the hospital every 6 hours for iv antibiotics.
It's just been a really emotional week. You really learn what's important to you when something scary happens. Still not completely out of the woods and he could still have a big recovery ahead. I needed someone to hug me. I had 7 kids here, all young enough that they were not able to see me upset really so I stayed as upbeat as I could and just kept thinking I really needed someone! I needed to see him and make sure he was ok, I couldn't cry as much as my body was trying to force me to, I couldn't say all the things I wanted to when I finally talked to him, or his wife and my husband I was just a mess.
And sitting here now just thinking what if he hadn't made it which was a very real possibility.
Yet people rush to R with people like this. They were in the fog, they compartmentalize right? That site should be required viewing of everyone thinking of R'ing. This gives you a much truer picture then anything that is posted on SI. Check out her valentines day post. I bet her husband will take her back though if he ever finds out. After all people do ****ty stuff when they are in the fog. She is just a good person who did a bad thing.
You can tell that she is friends with the OM's wife. Taking her kids from school and dropping them off. Calling her to inform her that OM is in the hospital.
that is what you call Hubris..... to her comment if the MM could have died....i was waiting for someone to respond your husband would have done handsprings of joy.
That thread just warms the cockles of my heart. How wonderful she was also an emergency contact because the W was out of town. I'm overjoyed with the humanity this woman is filled with.
LOL, I was nauseated by the thread until I got to that part and I just started laughing - She's openly talking about screwing someone else's (Apparently her friend's) husband and she's worried about being judged for being his emergency contact? Hello????
Oh FFS. The part about the kids makes me even more sick. That poor BW. Not only will she find out some day that her husband and her best friend betrayed her, which is going to be awful enough…..but it’s going to hurt extra bad knowing that her kids are around the AP. Bringing the kids around your AP is an extra all time low.
I think there is a sub-species of cheater who on some level really believes they are helping their affair partners marriage out by, helping their sex life, providing emotional support, being an aunt/uncle to the kids, etc.
Calls her OM MM too, likely has a fantasy she is actually the wife. Could turn into a bunny burner.
The rare one is the one who actually feels guilty. This type of thinking is the common one.
I think that site is a necessary evil but it should be required reading from every BS just so they can know they kind of people they are dealing with. And make no mistake this is the kind of people most of them are.
She's trash. The thing that gets me, aside from the obvious, is that, as a long-term member of the site, other posters have to respond as if she is either sane or worth a respectful reply. "Sorry you're going through this." "(((HUGS)))"
Evelyn Wood, a fast laptop/connection, and a two hour block of time in the very early morning, before work, when I can unplug from life and indulge my inner info pig.
I guess I just have to accept that no matter how much I can try to put myself in someone else's shoes in the attempt to get a different perspective, and in hopes of understanding others better, there are things I have to realize about my own limitations in this ability.
There are shoes like these...that are so beyond nasty, I can't even stand to see them from multiple states away, let alone try them on to understand...
The BS's both work away a LOT. They live next door to each other and share a yard. The BS's think they are all besties. They simply aren't suspicious due to the closeness of the relationship. It's really sad, actually.
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