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post #61 of 78 (permalink) Old 03-29-2017, 10:47 AM
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Re: Marriage going downhill, caught my wife cheating

One item I haven't seen here. .. make sure you document everything with the kids. When you had them what you did. What you bought etc. Document any bad interactions the kids tell you about your stbxw. You may need this down the line of she tries to be vindictive.

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post #62 of 78 (permalink) Old 05-14-2017, 01:00 AM Thread Starter
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I need advice if I should expose her to all her FB friends, email all her coworkers? email all his FB friends? send them the detective photos and summary while they were out having a fun night 2 sick kids with Dad were at home.

Or should I just let it go and move on, I know in some threads advice is to expose the affair.
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Re: Marriage going downhill, caught my wife cheating

What's your goal in exposing?

Are you looking to divorce or reconcile?

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What's your goal in exposing?

Are you looking to divorce or reconcile?
I am looking to divorce, she has played the game too long apologizing but still seeing him. texting that she made a mistake but still seeing him.

Exposing her will make her hate me showing the real person that she is to everyone.
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Very frustrating when she doesn't want to save the marriage and do whats right for the kids
Woah, no she should not the cheating because she wants to be with you. She already cheated on you once and look what happened.

Take a hint (if a hint is cheating and moving out) pal.
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Re: Marriage going downhill, caught my wife cheating

Dude, it's 2 months since your first post.

Have you filed yet? You need to move.

Expose or not expose, it shouldn't be your biggest priority. You could expose only to control the narrative around your family and friends in order to prevent her from tricking them with false stories against you. But that's about it. Don't turn it into a war...yet.
Your biggest target should be to get custody of your kids. From what you've posted, they're better off under your care than hers.

Get going. Your kids depend on you.
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post #67 of 78 (permalink) Old 05-14-2017, 06:42 AM
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Your wife is a serial cheater, addicted to attention from men. She always needs her fix. When attention from her lover dies down, she starts frantically calling you for some. If you take her back, she'll soon be onto her next fix from a 4th and 5th other man. Her instability will ultimately scar your children and destroy your family. Better to rip the band-aid off now and get the kids used to parents that live separately.

File for divorce. Let your attorney know that you don't want your kids exposed to a revolving door of men. Share your evidence of the fact that she's already introduced her kids to OM. Share your evidence of her neglect and their anxiety after her abandonment to get custody.
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Dude, it's 2 months since your first post.

Have you filed yet? You need to move.

Expose or not expose, it shouldn't be your biggest priority. You could expose only to control the narrative around your family and friends in order to prevent her from tricking them with false stories against you. But that's about it. Don't turn it into a war...yet.
Your biggest target should be to get custody of your kids. From what you've posted, they're better off under your care than hers.

Get going. Your kids depend on you.
Papers are all ready and will be filed next week. I am also asking the court for a psychological evaluation on her if she is fit mentally to look after the kids.

Trust me I have moved on, once everything is signed then maybe I will do the exposing of what really happened and is going on
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I wouldn't do a Facebook exposure. Would put a list of folks together that I wanted to know.

Nothing wrong with clearing the air with the truth.
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nothing wrong with exposing.

But do talk to your attorney before exposing.

Glad you are moving on.

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Talking isn't going to fix this. Trying to manipulate through words is weak at best.

Let your actions do your talking for you.
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Thank you all for your input on the FB exposure/work exposure. I will see how I feel about it after everything is signed.
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Don't send out lots of emails or messages to everyone exposing her affair.

Just post a public message on your page after the divorce stating that the divorce is final and yourself respect demanded that you divorce because she was being unfaithful to you with a coworker. If anyone asks questions - tell them the truth.
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If you are divorcing, do not expose.

Use it as leverage when you are haggling over marital assets.

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If you are divorcing play the 'well schucks, I can't fight true love. I sure hope you have a great love and I'll be here for you as a friend' card.

Keep her dumb, fat and happy as much as possible. It's strategically the soundest way to go. She'll figure out she was bamboozled when they psyche test comes in, but you will have bought yourself weeks of inaction on her part

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