She came home 30 minutes ago. Banging on the door super loud, had no choice but to let her in if she called the police they would force me to let her in. I don't know why she has to come home. I still care about her. She told me it's physical and she's in love.
I told her I'm moving on and she needs to find a place to stay. Asked if she would cut contact with him right now so we can rebuild, said she can't do that. Told me she thinks I shouldn't file yet.... maybe we should go to counseling she says. Just to see if there's any chance She also won't leave the house and both of our names are on it.
So I'm back in our room, she's in another one. Just would of never thought I would be here. She was the light of my life, now it's just darkness.
Well, I knew she was going to get back in. If her name is on house I was just hoping you did not wind up in jail over her actions.
Every time you post you still care about her, and tell her that, you are digging yourself a bigger hole to climb out of so please STOP IT. We all know how you feel but that is not going to help you.
Now she tells you she thinks you shouldn't file yet. Can you think of any reason that you shouldn't???? She has just told you, what we all knew, that she is and has been having sex with this guy, probably multiple times a week, and that she is now not even going to hide it from you.
WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU EVEN CONSIDER GOING TO AN MARRIAGE THERAPIST WITH HER.????????
My guess is she initially confessed to you because this OM probably is divorced and she is convinced he will be all hers. Otherwise she would have continued with the denial and deceit. Dude, you must get to an attorney today and get the papers drawn up. Remember, an attorney is there to advise you on legal issues, NOT to play marriage therapist. He or she is not living with a spouse who is cheating.
Your wife is going to make this as painful for you as possible for a couple of reasons.
(1) she obviously has nowhere to go and does not make enough money to get a place of her own
(2) her boyfriend obviously has not offered for her to move in right now
So unfortunately, until you can get this divorce done, which she should want, you are going to be stuck watching her going out and coming home or not coming home and you can't lock her out. That is why you need to get rolling on this divorce.
Dude, please stop discussing or engaging with her about anything. Last nighht she arrived home from banging another man and then tells you that maybe therapy might help,. It is just a stall.
Now cut her funding off and protect yourself financially. Filing will make you in most cases not responsible for any debt she incurs.
Get moving. Time is wasting.