Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: Warm in the summer, cold in the winter
Re: World has been turned upside down in a day.
Let me first say I am not saying to be violent, but it's time you go to dance class. When the OM arrives gently but firmly step between him and his daughter. Look him in the eye and quietly tell him to tell his daughter to continue on. Have a small but very firm chat with him that you will destroy his world legally if he continues contact with your wife. Tell him that rumors have been spreading about him and your wife amongst other parents. You are simply trying to protect your wife's reputation and it would be a shame if this somehow exploded to his family and employer. Tell him if it hits his family and employer it will also hit yours which is what you are protecting. If he says he doesn't know anything of what you are saying, tell him you sure hope so, but wouldn't bet on it.
Then tell your wife she decides now, no contact or its divorce. You must be willing to lose your marriage to save it. If she says she can't lose OM then she moves out NOW. With your days off work file for divorce. You can stop it at any time you decide. Have your wife served at work, tell her parents she is having an affair. Only shock and awe will bring her to rational thinking.
The other part is I would be at every dance class she has where OM's daughter is attending. Just tell OM to go ahead and discuss whatever it is that's bothering him with you present. Don't give that bastard one ounce of breathing room. At the same time don't give your wife any breathing room either. You are in a war ddude23, best you start to act like you are in one.
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