Yanno ... I used to generally agree with your perspective, but your style has gotten progressively more antagonistic and your position less defensible. You are now coming across as more of a "know it all", when in fact, you have little if any first hand point of reference to support your one dimensional POV.
Even though I am in R, I routinely advocate that D is the proper response to an A in most, but not necessarily all, cases and I do feel that my particular fact set and circumstances fits within that criteria. I'll also make note (that you are likely unaware of) that I was cheated on in a previous M and proceeded straight to D and never looked back, but that was with a completely different WW, with a completely different set of circumstances. However, just because I made a different choice this time, in NO WAY is indicative of the "wrongness" of that choice or negatively affects my own honor. How exactly is a BH that decides to R acting dishonorably? As long as he's able to look himself in the mirror and not feel shame, then I contend, his honor remains intact.
I'm guessing that I'm quite a bit older and have more life experiences than you, and I've learned that you simply can't put individual people in "all or never" categories. You seem to have all the stark black and white answers, while my life experiences tend to color my world in varying shades of grey. I remember when I was about 30 having a conversation with my Dad, where I told him (tongue in cheek) how much smarter he'd gotten in the last 10 years. I had finally reached the age/maturity of not knowing everything. Hopefully, at some point, you'll have a similar epiphany.
In addition, regarding the Space Ghost link ... it is widely speculated that Space Ghost was a troll and if, in fact, that is the case, there would definitely be no honor in that.
My point was, don't advocate for going and beating up or even more so killing the AP and act like that is an honorably thing and about right and wrong. It's really just about revenge. If you really feel that way about punishing right and wrong then how can you stay with your WS. What they did was just as wrong if not more so.
That was my only point. I see lots of BS put all of the anger they have for the affair on the AP and to me that is a form of rug sweeping and doesn't lead to healing. One of the most important things for healing is having clarity that your WS was much more responsible to your well being then the AP.
If all you care about is right and wrong then you wouldn't have stayed.
Personally I think there can be great honor in staying for the right reasons. I think I called someone here on this thread who stayed honorable. I believe I have called you DO honorable.
HOWEVER, I can see how my title of the link could be insulting. I apologize. Maybe I should have said -
"If all you care about is write and wrong and justice then you should act like this guy, not go beat up the AP".
Again I am sorry if that seemed insulting.
Frankly I don't think you should care about justice if you R, because you will not get any. I don't think any of you would deny that. But the truth is there isn't any justice if you go. Life is unjust.
Besides all that I am not sure if I posted this before or after Qualty started posting stuff about me and my wife's sex life last night, but I was pissed at that point. Meacolpa.