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Re: OPEN confession of a confused man. (please dont judge)
I continue to shake my head at this post.
OP, you do know people in general are friendly and willing to visit, right?
This has little to nothing to do with whatever fabulous skills you believe you have mastered. I'm a friendly girl. I usually end up visiting with anyone around me out in public. My DH is the same way, has never met a stranger. If I met you in public, I would note your ring, and that would let me drop my guard down a little, assuming that you are not going to flirt or be inappropriate because you are a married man. I would expect that you should be honoring your vows, and in turn my vows and therefore not trying to bed me. You need to realize that people in general are nice, and willing to talk. Not just to you, to anyone nice.
I'm sorry you were so awkward as a teen and didn't experience it much. Everything you are describing as women's reactions to you, I hear nothing that they are enjoying your flirting. I guess the few that eventually give you their phone number don't think you are a total douce canoe yet. It sounds like you pick them so young, they probably are embarrassed to even let you down easy or inexperienced enough to not know how. By flirting with them while they are working, you are really putting them into a bad spot, as they are being paid to talk to anyone who shows interest in their product (windows, coffee, Asian desserts etc) And you are approaching them while they are working. How do you expect your employees to treat your customers? Especially in any form of sales, they were most likely just doing their job, to be polite to all customers, in hopes of closing a sale.
The women that meet you on a dating site are a very different lot. They are looking for a romantic connection. Most of them for a LTR or even more. I'm guessing you don't list yourself as happily married on these sites. You list yourself as some form of available, so whatever reaction they are having to you is completely based on an orchestrated set of lies. They also wouldn't like the real you, in fact they would probably loathe you. I know I would have if I had met you on dating website. Rightly so, because you are a dirty lying cheat.
As I said days ago, you need to come fully clean to your wife. She deserves to know and you need the accountability.
Last edited by Spicy; 04-02-2017 at 09:21 AM.