Originally Posted by SuperConfusedHusband View Post
I watched the TED talk and ordered her book. I see myself in all of it 100%. Hopefully there is a way to stop the train or at least jump out of it, and yes I will get hurt but not as much as when the train crashes. Thank you!
OH, you have 100% control over stopping the train and getting off. But you are choosing to stay on it. This is 100% your choice.
Anything about how you did not have some wild time as a teen & as a 20-something is just an excuse. It's a great excuse because it allows you to twist it and self justify.
Just about every person and imperfect life during their teens & 20's. Most do not use that as an excuse.
Everyone who lives long enough grows old. We all experience things like realizing that our options are now limited, that there are things we will never do again; or that there are things that we wanted to do in our lives that we will never get to do again.
But most people do not destroy our lives and the people we love acting out.
You are doing what you are doing because you want to do it. You do not really care all that much for your wife. So you don't care if you hurt her. What you do not realize is that in the end, you are hurting yourself worse.
Any woman who takes money from you is only using you to get money. She could care less about you.
Please tell your wife that you have been dating a lot of women. She deserves the right to decide what she wants to do with her life. Why do you think that you have the right to make unilateral decisions and do things like date, but your wife does not have the right to decide her own life based on the facts that you are hiding from her?
Again, you not doing this because you were some poor deprived teen/20-something. You are doing it because you want to and you are going to do what you want to do no matter who it hurts.