Ok I will tell you about my last one. Nicole from the mall. Nicole is a very cute brunette about 5'5" and works alone in a kiosk trying to sell windows (go figure).
I usually pick settings like the mall because women are relaxed there and many are bored so talking to them is super easy. Other settings are more difficult.
The purpose of me talking to her is: make her day! Make her feel good about herself, laugh about me or life in general, uplift her soul, entertain her. Lets go for it and see if I succeed.
I observed her before many times and noticed that she has to approach people and sign them up to receive free info about windows and doors. I wanna interrupt that pattern which is boring to her so as my opener, I chose to approach her and try to sell something to her. Let's see if she goes for it. Its a game I play: I like to interrupt a persons pattern so that they will open to me once their mind is at ease. The approach:
I never approach a girl directly, always from the side and never from behind. Nicole is standing in front of her kiosk fidgeting with her paperwork. So I pretend I'm just walking by and I see her catching me in the corner of her eye, but because I'm walking fast she doesnt approach me. Instead, once I pass the kiosk I turn my head like I noticed something I liked at her kiosk, and without looking at her directly (too soon too fast) I pretend I'm interested in one of her brochures. I stop, go 2 steps back, never looking at her (crucial) ,a while looking at the brochure I use my opener: "Are you selling windows at a mall???" I pretend like I'm surprised and this subconsciously trigger a much bigger response in somebody instead of if I just asked "I see you are selling windows." The answer to that is typically "Yep". But if you act surprised, Nicole HAS to explain, and that gets her talking for a while(bingo!). The opener:
Now she is talking and I'm still not facing her (too soon too fast) but I position myself next to her both looking at her brochure. I use this technique of focusing attention of an external object and talking about it which conveys the image of "we are doing something together". Its a subconscious suggestion about the "we".
Her - yes see we have a lot of different models we install in homes, do you have a home?
Me - yes of course I own several...
She lights up because she might make a sale...and by saying that I convey the fact that I'm not just a general joe schmoe.
Me - but right now I'm not really looking to replace windows
I tell her that because I dont want her to be too excited about the sale but about the conversation.
Me - What I really do is that I'm a "pen sales man" on break, and I'm not supposed to stop here and chat with cute girls because my boss might see me"
I'm deliberately being funny so that she can relax and think of me more as a fun guy than a customer. I take my pen out of my pocket and show it to her: See, I'm not BSing you! I say.
She laughs because she knows I'm joking but she loves the joke and the fact I'm being an ass.
Her - (laughing) I know you dont sell pens for a living, so what do you really do?
Ok this is called an IOI Indicator of interest. You get 3 of these, she officially likes you. So I got one.
Me - (I take advantage of her question and will infer I'm a safe and secure men without saying it...watch me) I used to be inreal estate and own apartment buildings, but I sold it all and now I develop software and invest money in internet companies. Its less hassle and leaves me free time."
By saying that I inferred a lot of stuff, but mainly what I said was "I'm a secure and accomplished man". She likes it and we start to create.... ...Rapport.
She turns her body towards mine and slowly, very slowly I start turning mine towards hers. When 2 people are close by 2-3 ft apart in public and talking to each other and they are facing each other, it suggest intimacy. I also notice she is shy and has a hard time maintaining my eye contact. This is dangerous: if I look into her gorgeous brown eyes for too long, she might get uncomfortable and raise a wall. I want to maintain this position of facing her (very intimate) but I dont wanna lose her in her own insecurities, so I pull back.
I take 2 steps back so that my arm cannot reach her (safety distance) and Immediately see my move working, because she looks at me like she want to say "hey where are you going" and pull me back at her, and her body slightly shifts towards me. Bingo! she doesnt want me to go, and I have pulled her in again. Awesome. I then take ONE step forward. It's almost like a dance ecept she has no idea what's going on. I'm doing all the leading, physically and psychologically.
her - wow you look like you do have a lot on your plate, maybe I should find a job like yours and have more free time
Me - yeah that would be awesome. How many huors do you work here?
her - only 4 a day...
me - 4 daily, thats not too much, good pay at least...
And I pause here and I bend down a little to look at her badge so I can call her with her name.
me - ...Nicole is it?
Her - yes its Nicole.
Now I got her at her name so I have the opportunity to make her feel good. I take my hand like to shake hers and say
Me - that a beautiful name, Nice to meet you I'm Marc.
And she gives me her hand. While shaking it lightly but firmly, I only do it for 1 second and then before I let go I slightly turn her hand with mine on a side so that I can see her nails and while still holding her I look at it and say:
Me - you have beautiful nails.
Her - she laughs "thank you" and I let her go.
I established rapport,emotional and physical. She blushed a little when I was holding her hand and commented on her nails and I cannot stop from wondering if she has been touched gently like that lately, and if she craves it. Perhaps yes. I do know she liked it because she didnt retreat her hand from mine even when I wasnt squeezing too much.
She turns slightly and with a gesture of her other hand she flicks some hair off her shoulder to her back and jers her head in the process: IOI #2. This gesture is a universal thing that girls do when a guy they like is close by. Awsome!
Now we just talk about anything and everything, I have many techniques I use like "cherry picking" to get the conversation going. Maine thing is to keep it light and fun and make eye contact as much as I can.
Depending on how comfortable she is I might make some contact with her shoulder and say stuff like "come on..." and push her slightly on er shoulder like to make her lose balance. I observe er reaction very closely, each inch or movement coming from her body is 100% important to me: its her language telling me, stay I like this, go away I'm tired or you are boring me. While talking about BS I also observe her feet: they tell you where she feels comfortable. If she turns her feet away from you you are boring her and she wants out. feet toward you, you are still in and keep talking.
And so on and so on. It can go anywhere from there, phone number sometimes.
Then I have my closer and goodbye with "anchor". I might tell you about it some other time.
Is this horrible? Am I a monster...I dunno.