re: Deciding whether to stay with wife that emotionally cheats.
First off, she's lying to you: she's slept w/ this guy.
Sorry, but there's just no way that she went to this guy's house and "nothing happened", especially given that she's essentially refused to cut contact w/ him since.
You might as well accept this, because it's fact.
(Come on, man... use your head.)
So, knowing that, if you want to divorce, go for it.
If, however, you're inclined to reconcile, tell her to cut the bull****, go no contact w/ this *********, AND come clean, else you're filing for divice.
Draw your line in the sand and stand up for yourself FFS.
Virginia: "Why can't you kids leave well enough alone? Everything was fine until you started digging around."
Burt: "You sound like a Scooby Doo villain."