Re: I was too hot to be faithful
I would like to respectfully point out to my detractors that I was interviewed over the telephone for this utterly self-aggrandising and ridiculous article and did not actually write it myself. I was rung up by the Mail and asked if I would like to write an article on the back of a Harvard study that said attractive people were more likely to divorce. I thought this sounded interesting and was reluctantly persuaded to be ghosted – this is the term for when someone writes an article in your name. I would have much preferred to write it myself and if I had it would have been a very different article.
Obviously I had no idea I would be trailed on the front page as `the agony of being too beautiful to be faithful’. How I wish they had put, `Julia was speaking to....' but unfortunately this is not Mail policy. Many articles are ghosted in Femail these days, which is why many of them read like they are written by a Stepford wife on Valium.
Many of my comments were taken wildly out of context and of course I would never say that I was `too beautiful to be faithful'. This is a completely ludicrous statement and utter Daily Mailese fabrication. People are unfaithful for many reasons, something I did try to get across, however any attempt at a nuanced approach to the subject was sadly missing.
Take just one error. The story that a man gave me his card in an airport. Yes that did happen but the article goes on to say that I called him and this led to the demise of the relationship I was in at the time. The truth is that I didn’t call him and I was single at the time. I also made it very clear to the writer that I did not consider myself beautiful; as a young woman I brushed up well enough but like most women I have never been particularly confident about my looks. I certainly don’t sanctify adultery. In an ideal world everyone would be faithful to their partners. I made some bad decisions and am not alone in that.
So, at the risk of spoiling a good story folks, I am a middle-aged woman of 54, have been in an utterly faithful and monogamous long term relationship for 13 years and am disappointingly not the temptress that the very old photos the Mail dug up might imply. For many years I wrote an eco column in the Independent, have represented the Green Party in numerous elections and now own a dog sanctuary in Surrey called Chimney Farm Dog Rescue. I live a very boring life indeed and am far more likely to be picking up dog poo than seducing hot fellas on the town. However, dreary reality does not sell newspapers.
Unfortunately editors are looking for scandal and clickbait – who can blame them when people don’t bother to respond to really dreadful stories (like the husband who was recently let off for forcing his wife to drink bleach) with the same venom.
Of course I would much rather write about my dog sanctuary but guess what; those of you that took the time out to comment on this article wouldn’t bother to make a comment – good or bad – on something like that, it appears you would rather repeat made up tittle tattle. Around A.D. 100 a Roman poet wrote; `two things only the people desire - bread and circuses’. I really can’t see anything has changed.
Of course I must take some blame for being naïve enough to get sucked into such a nonsensical story. Mea Culpa. How I wish I could go back in time. Imagine the silliest mistake you have ever made blown up and exposed in front of millions of people. Fortunately, many experienced and cynical media observers can see it was a bit of a stich up but I'm quite surprised that some people take this sort of story on face value and even more bizarrely, have time to comment on it when there are so far more serious events in the world to worry about.
I can’t stop you taking cheap pot shots about me at me but please stop to think about those editors who twist facts and destroy reputations for their own ends. As most of those writing abusive messages come from America it appears that Americans have a gullible belief in everything they read in the tabloids. Hopefully this message may give you a reality check and make you think twice before getting so hot under the collar about a completely fabricated story.
As I'm not logged into this thread I won't be reading any more abusive comments - but feel free to keep venting into the ether if you've nothing better to do.