Re: BS with long time update
One more thing that has not been said OP. With her mindset there is no guarantee that you or your money is safe. She may just find some other guy and decide he is her soulmate, and destroy your business outright. God knows there are stories where the WW does this all the time. They just completely go off the reservation. People like her do that kind of unpredictable stuff and she has never shown you any loyalty.
Lets imagine since it's in her nature her next affair partner is divorced, has some money, and lives in some nice sunny place 200 miles away. One day she tells you she isn't happy, she loves you but is not in love with you and up and moves there a week or two later. What happens to your business then? No buy out, no amicable separation. No StillSearching running the process and having agency in his own life. Nope just once again you getting screwed over and having all the same emotions stirred up again from 15 years ago. Stuck there feeling like a sucker. I would say the chances of that happening are pretty good. Hell she may even try to get the most money out of you as possible. You have no idea what she is capable of.
You are like the guy living in the house with the pet tiger. Sooner or later it's going to eat you. Your fear and passivity is going to end up biting you in the ass again. Better to finally start taking an active role in your life and happiness. You can't blame anyone for you not taking command of your own life. If you don't do for yourself, life and people will do things to you.
I would be more afraid that I wasn't safe with her then I wasn't without her.