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post #241 of 277 (permalink) Old 05-07-2017, 09:19 AM
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@StillSearching: Please update when you can. We are eager to see this liar raked over the coals.

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@StillSearching: Please update when you can. We are eager to see this liar raked over the coals.
I will. The pain of still new sex with OM from 9 years ago is fresh. yesterday new DDay
There was no Dr. involved at all. It was all a ruse to hide OM from 9 years ago back in the saddle.
I have kicked her out of the house. She has confessed to both me and my 21 year old son.
I need to stay focused. It's very painful. But my sister and friends are behind me.

And I thought I was home free.....will I ever have happiness?
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I will. The pain of still new sex with OM from 9 years ago is fresh. yesterday new DDay
There was no Dr. involved at all. It was all a ruse to hide OM from 9 years ago back in the saddle.
I have kicked her out of the house. She has confessed to both me and my 21 year old son.
I need to stay focused. It's very painful. But my sister and friends are behind me.

And I thought I was home free.....will I ever have happiness?
That's the beginning of your happiness.

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I will. The pain of still new sex with OM from 9 years ago is fresh. yesterday new DDay
There was no Dr. involved at all. It was all a ruse to hide OM from 9 years ago back in the saddle.
I have kicked her out of the house. She has confessed to both me and my 21 year old son.
I need to stay focused. It's very painful. But my sister and friends are behind me.

And I thought I was home free.....will I ever have happiness?
In your opening post... You should of taken your own recommendation.

I guess it comes down to a simple choice, really. Get busy living or get busy dying... Andy, Shawshank Redemption.
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You'll have happiness once you've moved on. You're very unlikely to have it with her.

I doubt she's done so be prepared for all the stops to be pulled out in an effort to once more pull you back in. It's obviously up to you whether that works again.
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You'll have happiness once you've moved on. You're very unlikely to have it with her.

I doubt she's done so be prepared for all the stops to be pulled out in an effort to once more pull you back in. It's obviously up to you whether that works again.
OH i'm done.
Her tricks and her manipulation of me are over.
She's painted herself into a corner.
And I'm well aware of the dangers of cornered animals.
She will never use sex to hurt me again. Directly (reel me in) or with OM.
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Can't remember if OM is married or not, but if so, expose to his wife.

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It's hitting me like 2 tons of bricks right now.
I'm having a hard time holding myself together at work.
Having flashback thoughts of things she did 20+ years ago.
This is too much
Come one man perspective. 5 posts ago you were ready to leave. You were pretty sure she was doing this still and couldn't wait to get out. Now you decided to get nostalgic? Does the tortured miss his torturer? STOP IT! You are ending your jail sentence and riding off into the sunset. See yourself as John Wayne not Charley Brown. She didn't put one over on you, you did your time for your kids.

Come on man, BUCK UP! You were over this codependent stuff, now when you are at the end is not the time to revert back to it. You did it man, your kids have survived and are healthy, now take strength in that and use that strength to find better.
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She turned the hotel hooker up to 10 on me last night.
I didn't fall for it.
She was naked in my bed and all of it.
I can't tell weather shes mentally ill or completely evil.

She also told me she booked the hotel Monday to meet a man to have sex "To see if there is anything wrong with me."-she said.
WTF ..... of course there is!
Get a voice activated recorder and stay the hell away from your toxic wife!
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Get a voice activated recorder and stay the hell away from your toxic wife!
Don't need it. I have full confessions. Divorce package states confession is all you need. And she's done it to 2 people on 2 different days.

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Come one man perspective. 5 posts ago you were ready to leave. You were pretty sure she was doing this still and couldn't wait to get out. Now you decided to get nostalgic? Does the tortured miss his torturer? STOP IT! You are ending your jail sentence and riding off into the sunset. See yourself as John Wayne not Charley Brown. She didn't put one over on you, you did your time for your kids.

Come on man, BUCK UP! You were over this codependent stuff, now when you are at the end is not the time to revert back to it. You did it man, your kids have survived and are healthy, now take strength in that and use that strength to find better.
I swear to you I am not being nostalgic.
I'm done in this hell hole i've been in. I'm just playing a little nice for 2 more days before the bomb drops.
I'm one pissed off MF.
Codependent I was.

I like that line about my kids.
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Don't need it. I have full confessions. Divorce package states confession is all you need. And she's done it to 2 people on 2 different days.
Who knows she may accuse you of domestic violence, your wife isn't very nice. You need it!
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Who knows she may accuse you of domestic violence, your wife isn't very nice. You need it!
Good point.
Never thought about that.
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@StillSearching, how you holding up?

Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.


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@StillSearching, how you holding up?
About 50/50 right now. Been emotionally very hard this time.
She is staling the divorce talks. Wants to reconcile. Not gunna happen.
I'm trying to say focused and celibate.
Both going to counseling on our own. She is still very cooperative.
I keep waiting for her to panic and start full on crying. She never crys.
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