Re: Found Out Husband Had an Affair
He came home and I asked him if he had any thoughts on what I said yesterday. He said no. He said he still wanted to leave. When I asked if he had seen her today, he said he hadn't. Then I said we needed to solve this and the affair had to end. I asked him if he'd stay to give us a chance, a few weeks, a few months, something. He said no. Our marriage was over for awhile and he couldn't get past our issues. I told him I didn't accept that and that I wasn't ready to share our kids with her and I didn't want our kids to lose their family. He broke down and said I'd it wasn't for the kids he would have left awhile ago, he wasn't happy but he didn't know what to do about the kids.
After some back and forth he said he'd stay for the kids and agreed to what we talked about yesterday and the other stipulations somebody mentioned earlier. I told him that it meant he had to not see her and break off all contact and she'd have to quit or he'd have to transfer. He said that wasn't reasonable but he'd break things off with her. I said if he was serious he'd do it right then and there over the phone in front of me, which he did. I'm working on a letter to send her and her husband. I already told my family and his and I called them both out on Facebook so everybody knows.
He's home, he didn't go out (he wasn't going out to be with her anyway just avoid me and dealing with this), but after his call with her he didn't have much to say to me. He's in the spare room because he said he needs space. He's really upset so that's how I know this is real and final. He'll be sleeping in our bed tonight, the first time in about 6 or 7 months. He gave me his passwords to his iPad, forums, and email so I'm going through to find their texts and messages.
He's really taking this seriously, I can tell by how he's acting. I think if we can just get her out of work or move then we will have a real fighting chance.