I get a lot of you think I should leave, but I've already said I'm not going to give up on our marriage just yet. You guys don't have to understand it, but if you could at least accept it that would be helpful. I don't need to be scolded and shamed because I'm not willing to give up on him or what we've made together.
I don't think what's happened is beyond fixing. That's all that matters considering it is my husband, my marriage, my family, and my life. If I'm wrong that's fine, but I'm not any worse off. If I'm right then I have a marriage and if I'm wrong I'm divorced anyway. I've got nothing to lose by fighting.
You really need to get this "fighting" attitude out of your head. YOU chasing him by satisfying his every need for food, sex, and affection---- that will do nothing but drive him further away from you emotionally.
Every single person that ever uses this "fighting for their marriage" statement has ruined what little chance they had by chasing.
This husband of yours is not remorseful in ANY way for what he has done, which is horrible.
IF he actually cuts contact with his AP, which we all know he isn't, he is going to build resentment toward you for ruining his chance at "true love" with his AP.
He will come to see you as a woman that he can have anytime, and he will want MORE.
You have got to blow up the affair, which you have done. Bravo!!!!!!
Now you have to totally wreck his idea that he's too good for you, that he has you at his whim. You are not to be trifled with. You are his wife and deserve his respect.
You should have zero respect for him, and he should be willing to move heaven and earth to get it back.
He's only willing to stay for his kids!
He even denied you sex! That would have put me into a rage...... like YOU are the one that isn't worthy of his ----.
I hope this works out for you, but we e all seen this a hundred times and reconciliation just has no chance with an unrenorseful cheating spouse. If you busted his affair up and chunked him out of the house and blew his world up, there might be a chance he'd appreciate you again and strive to make things right.
I see him actually becoming resentful over you ruining his chance at his "soulmate", and him just slowly starting the hate being with you.
So that's what I worry about for you.
Don't want to see it happen.