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post #136 of 207 (permalink) Old 03-29-2017, 11:44 AM
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I hope that piece of ass was really worth it, because if your wife exercises her option, it will be the most expensive piece you've ever had.

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What else was there to ask? You said you're single.
How long? Why? If I'm ready to date, since you all are so adamant she wanted me to get down on one knee after screwing her.
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How long? Why? If I'm ready to date, since you all are so adamant she wanted me to get down on one knee after screwing her.
Why would you expect someone who has been seriously abused to ask questions like that, and pry? These kinds of people tend to hold things to their chest, and expect that you'll want to do the same with traumatic things unless you offer to talk about them. And divorce tends to be a pretty traumatic event.

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I knew my wife would be hurt and unhappy about it. That's why I debated not telling her at all. It's not going to happen again. My wife wants me to stop going on business trips, fine. My wife wants me to stop going out with friends, that's not going to be hard now. My wife wants me to get an STD test, fine.

The other woman is not totally innocent here. Ok fine sure she thought I was single. HOWEVER, the knew I was friends with her exhusband. Yes I said we were not close anymore but I did not say we weren't friends at all and she knew I was his closet friend. She got divorced, and ****ed the best man. She knew I was married at some point and to some degree knew my wife. They aren't friends, never have been but still she knew who I was married to and came to our wedding. We didn't use a condom and she went along with it. She was ok doing things during a ONS/first hook up that most other women are not. She made stupid choices as well. She could **** up her whole family dynamic as well.

Neither of my daughters, or son, are going to be talking to me about who they are sleeping with. If you sleep around you can get burned.
Which is why it is important to set a good example, which you have failed to do.

I bet if she gets pregnant then that'll be her fault too, right? Thought so.

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Just keep digging yourself deeper in that hole man with those ridiculous excuses that excuse nothing. As to your wife changing her tune on you; well we call that getting YOUR just desserts. I hope she figures out a more permanent solution to her problems real soon and a barracuda lawyer helps her along the way. A WS that has no empathy, remorse, and continues to deceive his BS shouldn't be married at all.


Do you at least make a decent living and have at least assets worth fighting for? Let us know please, it would be an interesting read.
My finances are none of your concern. I make enough that we live comfortably and my wife can stay home with our kids. If I had no empathy I wouldn't have told my wife. If I had no remorse I wouldn't have told my wife. I also wouldn't be here. I came with the original intention of righting my wrongs.
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How long? Why? If I'm ready to date, since you all are so adamant she wanted me to get down on one knee after screwing her.
Did you ask her these things when she told you she was divorced?

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Folks, expecting someone with drag scars on his knuckles to somehow be capable of either empathy or accountability isn't going to lead to anything other than a whole lot of entertainment for all of us.

So, by all means, keep it up.

@alexgunn, has your wife started sleeping around yet? I only ask because she strikes me as the kind of gal that might be shopping around for a revenge lay.

Hell, maybe a few of them.
My wife isn't a *****, she isn't sleeping around. Not all women do. Some have respect for themselves.
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My finances are none of your concern. I make enough that we live comfortably and my wife can stay home with our kids. If I had no empathy I wouldn't have told my wife. If I had no remorse I wouldn't have told my wife. I also wouldn't be here. I came with the original intention of righting my wrongs.
If you truly want to do that then tell your wife that you misled the woman by advising her you were divorced when you first met, and never mentioned being married until AFTER you had slept together. Then she will be able to direct her anger at the correct person (you) and you can go from there.

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My wife isn't a *****, she isn't sleeping around. Not all women do. Some have respect for themselves.
And all men don't lie to women to get them to sleep with them either. Some have respect for themselves (and others)

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My wife isn't a *****, she isn't sleeping around. Not all women do. Some have respect for themselves.
She obviously doesn't have much respect for herself if she's still married to a lying cheat like you.


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It wasn't a lie, it was prophecy!
Not if I can help it. I'm not giving up on my wife that easily.
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If he reported his old lady's reaction accurately, she definitely sounds like the the type that would want to even the score. And in my opinion, what would give her better mileage than to target and score with the best friend.
My wife wants to be a ***** to who ****ed me, not go sleep around herself. Where is that going to get her? Knocked up with an STD? Some people are smart enough not to sleep around. Not all women are as sex hungry as some.
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My wife isn't a *****, she isn't sleeping around. Not all women do. Some have respect for themselves.
Would you say that such women probably don't associate with men that sleep around?

Not knowingly or willingly, I mean.

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Why would you expect someone who has been seriously abused to ask questions like that, and pry? These kinds of people tend to hold things to their chest, and expect that you'll want to do the same with traumatic things unless you offer to talk about them. And divorce tends to be a pretty traumatic event.
Well I wouldn't know, I haven't gone through a divorce and I'm going to do everything to keep it that way. If she has hang ups that led to her getting hurt that is HER fault. Don't go sleeping around if your still hung up on your sexual abuse. Don't sleep with someone if you will be hurt if it turns into a ONS. I'm not a psychiatrist.
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Not if I can help it. I'm not giving up on my wife that easily.
It's funny that you think you have a choice left to make in that regard.

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