Re: I cheated on my wife with my best friends ex-wife
"So you really think that every man on the planet who has a ONS, a hook up, should send a formal ****ing apology letter? Get a grip. We ****ed, that's it. That's all it was ever going to be. If she thinks anything else then she's an idiot. Sex does not equal a relationship. She let me do whatever I wanted without hesitation, she wasn't a ****ing innocent victim. She wanted sex, that's what she got. She doesn't get a ****ing apology to go with it. What am I suppose to say "Oh, sorry for lying to you. Just wanted to get in your pants. Sorry you were so gullible. Thanks for the sex. -Alex"."
WOW, yes you should apologize to her as she is not an OW in this case. Obviously, you were not honest with your wife about this or else she wouldn't have so much anger towards this woman. You led her on which is why she mentioned getting together after you returned from the conference. She felt comfortable with you when she has a past of abuse and abandonment. Yet, the shared history and familiarity of you set her at ease enough that she gave you a chance and opened up sexually with you, possibly looking for an emotional connection in the sex as well. Its been 6 years as you stated that she hasn't been with anyone. She's not some tramp from the sounds of it. How long do you think its going to take her now to even try to have a relationship with a man again because of your actions. This isn't a ONS at least not to her it wasn't. You brought this on yourself and you need to own this sh*t. Damn dude be a man and admit that you played her. We can all see it and we are all calling you out on it. The only one not calling you out is your wife because she hasn't be told the truth yet. She cant see it for what it is and she cant see you for what you are. Look at the man you are from your responses. You deceived this woman and your wife yet you call her an idiot? Good luck on the divorce because you're about to feel the ****ing that you gave this woman. Best thing you can do is own what you done and work on yourself so you don't screw anyone else up.