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post #106 of 207 (permalink) Old 03-28-2017, 06:21 PM
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BTW, did you tell your BW that you told your friend's ex that you were divorced?...Ooh! Maybe the betrayed wife character could bang the best friend for a revenge lay! Hell, it ain't like he's above stepping outside his marriage for a bit of side action. Plus he sounds like the type of guy that could get his AP/OW/wife to go along with it. And maybe even join in!

Sorry, didn't mean to jump too far ahead.
Here is what I don't understand about the story. If this is the ex-wife of the OP's best friend, how did she not know he was married? The way his wife talks on her FB sounds like she knows the woman. Makes no sense.

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Here is what I don't understand about the story. If this is the ex-wife of the OP's best friend, how did she not know he was married? The way his wife talks on her FB sounds like she knows the woman. Makes no sense.
They do all know each other.

He lied to her and told her that he'd divorced his wife.

He told her that on the first day.

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They do all know each other.

He lied to her and told her that he'd divorced his wife.

He told her that on the first day.
It just seems like if they knew each other the friend's ex would have been suspicious of his claim to be divorced. Unless it'd been a long time since they'd seen each other.
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So Alex, has the cat got your tongue?

Is a group of strangers showing you who you really are?

Will you redeem yourself?

Let me reiterate:

1. dishonest, you lied to the OW and your BW
2. cowardly, you didn't have the balls to tell your wife the truth
3. predatory, you took advantage of a woman whom you knew was vulnerable
4. corrupt, you crossed an unspoken line, a man should never sleep with his friends ex's
5. devious, you groomed OW for a week
6. unscrupulous, you let your wife fight a battle for you, when all along you knew she did not know the truth

With those kind of qualities, yeah you are a great catch. Sorry I forgot to add to the list, you are delusional as well, you think you really didn't do anything wrong.
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So Alex, has the cat got your tongue?
I imagine he's quietly snuck off, like a little *****, after seeing NO-ONE has his back here in TAM. Maybe he will find LoveShack more to his liking....

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Him and his wife appear to be the types that would blame the jury if they're found guilty.

If you don't embody controversy, what you say will become just another part of the media driven culture of stifling thought and debate about issues.
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So, you knew all this:

But still did this:

Not a man, IMO. Vulnerable woman + scumbag with an opportunity = Basically a rapist.
I didn't ****ing rape her. She was a willing participant in all of it. I didn't kidnap her, shove her into her room, hog tie her and rape her. I didn't ****ing rape her.
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Well, him courting this so called ONS for a whole week is nothing boast worthy either. Me thinks once he sleeps with his prey he leaves because he is not boast-worthy in the sack either. So he leaves before he is ridiculed for his performance or lack of it to be more exact.

We know he didn't leave after the act was done with the OW because he was guilt ridden for his poor wife. Why else leave and not enjoy the pleasures of the prey a tad more? Because he knows his limitations.
There was nothing ****ing wrong with my performance. I'm not riddled with ED. I know how to please a woman. I left because I owed her nothing. Done. SHE was the one who wanted to see me again.
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Nope. Read his replies. He simply doesn't give a ****. He found a woman, who he knew was vulnerable, alone, feeling unwanted for (at least) 6 years, and knew that the right lies, right words, that pretending to give a d@mn about her would open her legs.

And once he blew his load (probably without protection) he was outtathere, with an "oh BTW, i'm a lying sack of cr@p. A married sack of cr@p. Leaving her there, betrayed. Just a piece of meat that served his purpose.
She's not ****ing vulnerable. She is a grown ass woman who is mentally able to make her own decisions. She isn't handicapped. She may have said it was the first time she ****ed someone in 6 years but I doubt it. She knew exactly what to do and had no limitations. "Oh I haven't had sex in 6 years but you wanna **** me in the ass? Sure go for it". I'd say her saying she hadn't slept with someone in half a decade was just as much of a lie as anything else. If she was so broken and vulnerable she wouldn't have even been in that room.

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There was nothing ****ing wrong with my performance. I'm not riddled with ED. I know how to please a woman. I left because I owed her nothing. Done. SHE was the one who wanted to see me again.
There's that complete lack of any empathy again...

I'd consider some individual counseling, and seeing if someone else can help you develop that apparently atrophied trait. Also read a lot of novels, it's been shown to help develop empathy.
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So, are you going to hide behind your wife's skirts while she believes one version or are you going to tell her that she has the total wrong end of the stick about the OW?
The more I think about it, why would I tell her that? She knows that I cheated, she knows then when, where and who. She doesn't need to know more than that. If she wants to be angry at someone other than me than so be it. That is better for my marriage. My marriage is what is important to me not getting consumed in the details. It's not like I'm sitting over here in paradise. My wife hates me, she thinks I'm a moron. She won't touch me. She wants to leave for some time away but doesn't trust me to leave me here alone. So she stays in this house but I get the silent treatment and can't get closer than 20ft to her. She sleeps in the guest room and locks the door. She told her friends and family. She called my boss and asked for my work schedule telling him she needed it because I cheated and she didn't trust me. My friends are giving me the cold shoulder. Happy? My wife knows. She doesn't need to know every last word that I exchanged.
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There's that complete lack of any empathy again...

I'd consider some individual counseling, and seeing if someone else can help you develop that apparently atrophied trait. Also read a lot of novels, it's been shown to help develop empathy.
We haven't ****ing spoken in YEARS. When she got divorced her EX HUSBANDS FRIENDS including myself and my wife where OUT OF HER LIFE. She might as well be a stranger to me. You're supposed to feel bad for everyone you have a ONS with? For everyone you didn't want to date? I better buy a large notebook and start writing some letters then.
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She's not ****ing vulnerable. She is a grown ass woman who is mentally able to make her own decisions. She isn't handicapped. She may have said it was the first time she ****ed someone in 6 years but I doubt it. She knew exactly what to do and had no limitations. "Oh I haven't had sex in 6 years but you wanna **** me in the ass? Sure go for it". I'd say her saying she hadn't slept with someone in half a decade was just as much of a lie as anything else. If she was so broken and vulnerable she wouldn't have even been in that room.
Yes, and she made a decision to have sex with you based on you telling her you were DIVORCED!!

BTW, is your wife still harassing her or have you been a man and told her the truth yet?

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This thread keeps getting better and better.

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