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post #151 of 163 (permalink) Old 03-31-2017, 07:04 AM
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I live in NY.
It is just a f-ing slap in the face. I cannot fathom disregarding someones feelings as she is doing. It is mind blowing

She would love to live in the house and keep this charade going for 5 more years (she has said this). And i was more than willing to do mediation which would've given her at least some of that.

At this point I am going to file and let the chips fall where they may.

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You are doing the right thing. Time is really valuable and you should focus on your children now.

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This is a very odd way of looking at an affair partner, who owes the betrayed partner nothing. If they feel bad about it and WANT to make things right after they find out they've both been deceived, well that's one thing, but if the guy doesn't care about Mack and correctly sees the wife as the cause of the problems, there is no debt to be paid and Mack can wait for eternity for payback or maybe he'll follow through on what he said here, and do something illegal and or maybe violent to the other man as some sort of misplaced revenge but that doesn't mean it's evening up some sort of loan.

Ahhhhh, the single OM fantasy that he's morally and ethically free to date and sleep with any married woman he chooses becauses it's not like he's married.

"misplaced revenge" won't make the likely and foreseeable blowback of knowlngly or even accidentally fooling around with a married woman hurt any less; and, though sometimes such illegalities result in some legal consequences, the system is generally pretty lenient upon betrayed husbands. I believe in Texas, you can still legally shoot a man caught in your marital bed copulating with your wife {he probably just needs to act like he was startled and didn't already know it was going on ~~ "I thought he was raping her" }.

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I blamed my wife completely for her affair. I really didn't care what scumbag she choose to cheat on me with because if it wasn't him it would of been someone one else. He was just a tool to get her immorality off on. I wasn't going to give her the satisfaction of "fighting for her" by beating this guy up. (Though I did drive to his house and tell his wife she was getting cheated on). Why would a take a single punch for that witch at that point? He can keep the ho....

That said would I intervene or call the police if I saw a BS pummeling the snot out of his wife's AP?

**** no.....

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I blamed my wife completely for her affair. I really didn't care what scumbag she choose to cheat on me with because if it wasn't him it would of been someone one else. He was just a tool to get her immorality off on. I wasn't going to give her the satisfaction of "fighting for her" by beating this guy up. (Though I did drive to his house and tell his wife she was getting cheated on). Why would a take a single punch for that witch at that point? He can keep the ho....

That said would intervene or call the police if I saw a BS pummeling the snot out of his wife's AP?

**** no.....
I too contemplated all these things I would do to POSOM, but finally came to the decision that she was the one that promised to love and honor our marriage. He did not force her, she just used him to get what she wanted and then moved on from him. Years later my father asked me whatever became of her and I told him that I didn't have the vaguest idea and you don't know how happy that makes me (my father laughed hardily).
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I have often thought about the OM. I concluded that I could not fault him because he found my wife attractive and sexy....after all, I felt the same way. He was an immoral creep for going after a married woman, but nothing would have happened if she did not want it to happen. He put out some feelers and she encouraged him to continue. It is all her fault. He never promised me a thing, she did. He never broke a vow to me, she did. He is a POS aZZhole for what he did, but she is far worse.
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In my case the OM knew my wife and myself, didn't stop either of them from having an affair. I do know that OM has expressed fear/concern that I am biding my time before striking. I won't state my intentions here or anywhere, except to say justice comes in many forms.

I am not an advocate for revenge or violence. I react in what is the best thing for me, and if that is revenge then I work within the capacities of the legal system. Infidelity is an invasion of your marriage, an act of war, an act that deserves a response from the betrayed spouse. Just my opinion.

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Straw man argument.... OP's situation is NOTHING like that.

And yeah, I would never date a person who's divorce wasn't final.

Why the hell would you want to get sucked into that kind of drama?
I met my husband during his divorce. His wife had met another man and was divorcing him. There was no sex on our part so no adultery committed.
We got engaged after the divorce was completed and married not long after that.
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did not read the whole thread, but let your lawyer do all the talking from here on out.
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I dated a woman who was divorced. Or so she told me.

It turned out they were not divorced, only separated.

I'd have appreciated it if she had told me the truth.

They did, eventually, divorce, but even so...


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I dated a woman who was divorced. Or so she told me.

It turned out they were not divorced, only separated.

I'd have appreciated it if she had told me the truth.

They did, eventually, divorce, but even so...
Yes, that was deceptive.

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Yes, that was deceptive.
Well, in the case of the young lady concerned, perhaps just something she did not see as important. She had some "different" views on life.


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Well, in the case of the young lady concerned, perhaps just something she did not see as important. She had some "different" views on life.
Its pretty vital to be told if the one you are dating is single, married, divorced or getting divorced.
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what happen to Count Mac? Did he get lost in Vegas?
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