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I agree with this as all. Many say the best revenge is a life well-lived.

Well I agree but at the same time there is one invariable fact - you don't **** with me. This dude thinks so little of you that he lied to your face and then continued to do it. Bet he had a nice giggle about that to himself.

I recently helped someone completely, utterly and legally destroy a OM. Like his life is now effectively over (lost wife and job). It was a blast. Karma sucks.

Start by finding out everything about him. Everything. Don't rock the boat at this time. I spent six months helping research this other guy. Keep one document of everything you know about him. With mine, I was able to get a key piece of information by catfishing his best friend's wife....so when I say get everything...get everything. He has something to hide.
@eric1 - the problem is that no-one, not even cheating OM's, exist in isolation.

Even cheating, lying scumbags have mothers, (ex)wives, children, dogs etc. that rely on them financially. But, so long as you are convinced that the ego blast from hurting him where it did the most damage was worth it, well then, that's OK. I'm sure that he's really sorry. Just a pity about the fall-out affecting the people around him. But then that wasn't your fault, was it?

All actions have consequences. In my opinion, when "karma" picks on those who already have the misfortune of having a WS in their lives, then that really sucks.


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Texas has no alimony...but my lawyer got me spousal support
Um, aren't they the same thing?
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Um, aren't they the same thing?
The words are often used interchangeably and don't necessarily mean the same thing depending on the particular jurisdiction in which they are used.

It's a matter of temporary (during divorce) versus post divorce- durational or nondurational (permanent)
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What I can't understand is why you are paying for her gas to bang another man.


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The weird thing is that if her OM is single, well divorced, and lives in a place all by himself, why is she still staying and your place?

Wouldn't they want to start building their little love nest right away?

...on another note, the OM is not the problem, he is a temporary thing almost every time. The problem is you crummy STXW! If she could replace you and yes the kids too for this OM, what do you think is going to keep her tied up for very long with this loser?

Forget about the loser, he will get his just desserts if he stays with the heartless cheater or he doesn't. These relationships are doomed for the simple reason that their foundation is shaky due to being based on deception.

The best revenge is a well lived life where your STBX will be nothing but a good riddance!

Good things come to those who wait...greater things come to those who get off their a$$ and do anything to make it happen.
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DID IT!!!!!!!
Just left my Lawyers office and filed for Divorce, she will be served in the morning. Let me tell you, it is liberating and sickening all at the same time.

I saw this on here somewhere (not sure who to credit but it's not mine) and it is exactly what i am going to say to her when she calls up screaming/crying/whatever, actually i will text it as i am no longer taking her calls as of 2 days ago.

"I filed for Divorce because it is what needs to be happen, especially given your lack of remorse and continued infidelity.
I don't want you back, and i don't care whether you are angry, content, happy, sad or whatever about it."

this is some mine

"why would i want to prolong a divorce from someone who has zero respect for me and has no love for me. I want out as soon as humanly possible and this is how i am doing it."

another i found

"The bottom line is you showed me who you really are, and i believe you."

On a side note I made to appear has happy as i could this morning, whistling while getting dressed and all the way to my car. She was unhappy about it and yelled out the window that i was being a child.
I think i am going to love the 180.
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And you are right bibi, the OM is not the problem but the fact is he ****ed/is ****ing a married women who happens to be my wife.(STBXW) Unforgivable and unforgettable.
I have already set those wheels in motion, by the end of the week i will know every detail about his life. and the fun will start.
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I am going to be the MAN i used to be. The MAN i forgot i was and deep down he is still there, fighting to be released. I am going to let him run **** for awhile and see what happens.
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Count, your STBXWW is not worth your time/energy and either is the OM. You'll be better off just dropping it and not worrying about them. The opposite of love is apathy, not hate. I know taking action now will temporarily make you feel better, but is that the person who you really want to be?
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It most definitely is. I'm done being the passive door mat, they say hell hath no fury like a women scorned? Bull****, wait till they get look at me.

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And you are right bibi, the OM is not the problem but the fact is he ****ed/is ****ing a married women who happens to be my wife.(STBXW) Unforgivable and unforgettable.
I have already set those wheels in motion, by the end of the week i will know every detail about his life. and the fun will start.
I wish more BH's had your testicular fortitude.

I know that when I was where you are now just how good it felt to reclaim my old self ... I kicked myself in the ass for losing ME originally ... but the new/old me felt like I was coming home!!!! ... and if history repeats itself, your WW, friends and family will notice the difference almost immediately. Your WW's epiphany happens tomorrow.

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DID IT!!!!!!!
Just left my Lawyers office and filed for Divorce, she will be served in the morning. Let me tell you, it is liberating and sickening all at the same time.

I saw this on here somewhere (not sure who to credit but it's not mine) and it is exactly what i am going to say to her when she calls up screaming/crying/whatever, actually i will text it as i am no longer taking her calls as of 2 days ago.

"I filed for Divorce because it is what needs to be happen, especially given your lack of remorse and continued infidelity.
I don't want you back, and i don't care whether you are angry, content, happy, sad or whatever about it."

this is some mine

"why would i want to prolong a divorce from someone who has zero respect for me and has no love for me. I want out as soon as humanly possible and this is how i am doing it."

another i found

"The bottom line is you showed me who you really are, and i believe you."

On a side note I made to appear has happy as i could this morning, whistling while getting dressed and all the way to my car. She was unhappy about it and yelled out the window that i was being a child.
I think i am going to love the 180.
She knows why you filed. You have nothing to say to her.

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Count, your STBXWW is not worth your time/energy and either is the OM. You'll be better off just dropping it and not worrying about them. The opposite of love is apathy, not hate. I know taking action now will temporarily make you feel better, but is that the person who you really want to be?
I agree with you. I'm not even sure it will make him feel better. His energy is better spent starting his new life IMO. I hate the terms alpha and beta, but to me spending a bunch of time plotting revenge and reveling in it is more of a beta move. I get exposure, but don't put too much effort into revenge, otherwise your bitterness could consume you. An alpha IMO moves on and doesn't look back. Let her see that you are happier new you that could care less what she does with her life. That shows more strength IMO....but....we're all different.
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@eric1 - the problem is that no-one, not even cheating OM's, exist in isolation.

Even cheating, lying scumbags have mothers, (ex)wives, children, dogs etc. that rely on them financially. But, so long as you are convinced that the ego blast from hurting him where it did the most damage was worth it, well then, that's OK. I'm sure that he's really sorry. Just a pity about the fall-out affecting the people around him. But then that wasn't your fault, was it?

All actions have consequences. In my opinion, when "karma" picks on those who already have the misfortune of having a WS in their lives, then that really sucks.


He was married and the fall-out was that the wife, who was in intense therapy because of the cruel almost sadomasochistic lying and manipulation felt empowered to then end the marriage. She tried to commit suicide twice after 'finding out' but being called crazy.

He lost a job that he went to maybe twice a week. This employer presumably found a better employee.

The truth may be painful but the only thing more painful is living a lie. The greatest disinfectant is sunlight.

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DID IT!!!!!!!
Just left my Lawyers office and filed for Divorce, she will be served in the morning. Let me tell you, it is liberating and sickening all at the same time.

I saw this on here somewhere (not sure who to credit but it's not mine) and it is exactly what i am going to say to her when she calls up screaming/crying/whatever, actually i will text it as i am no longer taking her calls as of 2 days ago.

"I filed for Divorce because it is what needs to be happen, especially given your lack of remorse and continued infidelity.
I don't want you back, and i don't care whether you are angry, content, happy, sad or whatever about it."

this is some mine

"why would i want to prolong a divorce from someone who has zero respect for me and has no love for me. I want out as soon as humanly possible and this is how i am doing it."

another i found

"The bottom line is you showed me who you really are, and i believe you."

On a side note I made to appear has happy as i could this morning, whistling while getting dressed and all the way to my car. She was unhappy about it and yelled out the window that i was being a child.
I think i am going to love the 180.
"I'm sorry I just can't be married to someone like you, I can't even be friends with someone like you. I would never forgive myself. Good luck."
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